Food and Invitation

Loriane2010 Posted: Feb 16, 2011 11:17 AM

Food and Invitation

My bridemaids just told me something, that was just a little different. Last year, she went to a wedding and the girl had in her invitation package, the food selection. Like the guest, should pick chicken, fish or steak.

Do people still do that? Last time I remember something like that, I think I was a little girl in the 80s.

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 16, 2011 11:19 AM

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This is something I haven't seen in awhile. It's usually a way to keep costs down so the hall doesn't have to make enough of each thing for everyone, they know exactly how many in advance..it's considered..how do I say this politely..umm...informal...

Chanwich Posted: Feb 16, 2011 11:28 AM

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I had to do this for a couple of weddings that I went to upstate. They definitely still do it there. Its just so the hall makes just enough of each dish for each guest. The last one I went to, they wrote the dish you chose from the invitation on your placecard too

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 16, 2011 11:33 AM

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Posted by Chanwich

I had to do this for a couple of weddings that I went to upstate. They definitely still do it there. Its just so the hall makes just enough of each dish for each guest. The last one I went to, they wrote the dish you chose from the invitation on your placecard too

Yeah, it's definitely more popular outside of NYC/LI

bartgirl12 Posted: Feb 16, 2011 12:12 PM

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Def upstate/middle of nowhere thing. We got an invite with that for a rural pennsylvania wedding.

KatiNoE Posted: Feb 16, 2011 03:51 PM

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Haha, I'm from Rhode Island and when my family received their invitations they all called and asked how I would know what they want for dinner. Also, when I was going over all the cocktail hour food my mom told me I should have an announcement made that cocktail hour is not the dinner so make sure to save room. I just smiled on the other end of the phone. It's so different here compared to other places.

halfbaked Posted: Feb 16, 2011 04:10 PM

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We got an invitation like that in October. I'm not a fan. Personally, I'm a picky eater so I'll be eating the chicken regardless, but my FSIL wasn't in the mood for the dish she chose when she sent the RSVP and wound up changing anyway.

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 16, 2011 05:17 PM

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Posted by KatiNoE

Haha, I'm from Rhode Island and when my family received their invitations they all called and asked how I would know what they want for dinner. Also, when I was going over all the cocktail hour food my mom told me I should have an announcement made that cocktail hour is not the dinner so make sure to save room. I just smiled on the other end of the phone. It's so different here compared to other places.

LOL that's so funny!

I went to a wedding in PA and the CH was fruit and cheese. I was soooo hungry.

Yankeeelove Posted: Feb 16, 2011 07:31 PM

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I had to do this for a wedding I went to in the Poconos a year and a half ago. It was a little weird bc you don't know what your gonna be in the mood for on that day so how do you pick that out ahead of time lol

SUbride10_08_11 Posted: Feb 16, 2011 08:06 PM

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Went to a wedding upstate NY and the CH was cheese, crackers and food and the bartender looked at me like I was crazy when I asked for a glass of champagne. He was like, 'Um that's for the toast only...'

I currently live in Maryland (from LI though) and allll the weddings I hear about here make you pick your entree with your RSVP. So strange to me...

mthornton82 Posted: Feb 16, 2011 09:18 PM

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we are not including it in our invitations....but my FMIL asked me to send her a copy of the menu so she can think about what she is going to have and our wedding is not for 200 days!

bartgirl12 Posted: Feb 16, 2011 10:00 PM

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Posted by KatiNoE

Haha, I'm from Rhode Island and when my family received their invitations they all called and asked how I would know what they want for dinner. Also, when I was going over all the cocktail hour food my mom told me I should have an announcement made that cocktail hour is not the dinner so make sure to save room. I just smiled on the other end of the phone. It's so different here compared to other places.

hahaha that's so true!!! The wedding we went to in Pennsylvania had a few appetizers being served during cocktail hour and people thought that was the wedding food!!! They asked me if i ever heard of a cocktail hour before???? I SO wanted to invite them all to my wedding to show them how nuts we LIers do it!!!

StephanieJoy Posted: Feb 16, 2011 10:15 PM

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my cousin had something like that too but that was in PA

Thar1127 Posted: Feb 17, 2011 07:08 AM

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its very common outside of LI/NY metro area

SummerBride10 Posted: Feb 17, 2011 07:16 AM

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Never heard of that before.

FutureJOC Posted: Feb 17, 2011 07:33 AM

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Posted by jilliibabii

We got an invitation like that in October. I'm not a fan. Personally, I'm a picky eater so I'll be eating the chicken regardless, but my FSIL wasn't in the mood for the dish she chose when she sent the RSVP and wound up changing anyway.

That would be me. Yeah, it's definitely not something you see done nowadays. But, I think for venues out of NY what they do is charge X amount for certain dishes (like lobster and steak would cost the couple more than a chicken dish). So when the couples gives the final count and tells the venue how many of each dish they calculate their final payment accordingly. But I had no issue switching dishes. I originally ordered chicken but wanted the Filet Mignon when I got there and just pretended I couldn't remember what I RSVP'd.

ourwedding9510 Posted: Feb 17, 2011 07:50 AM

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My cousin (to which I HATE) did this for her wedding. IMHO I personally HATE when I get this in an invite. How am I supposed to know what I'll be in the mood for in 2-3 months? I can see why it's a good thing because the couple can save money and the hall doesn't have to make food and let it go to waste but I just don't agree with it.