For brides who are getting married at their reception venue...

luckylucy Posted: Nov 11, 2003 10:51 AM

For brides who are getting married at their reception venue...

I have to been to many weddings where the officiant has been invited to the reception and has attended with spouse.

Just wondering what you all think...

Jordan Posted: Nov 11, 2003 10:53 AM

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We haven't decided on our officiant as of yet...but whomever it is going to be (either FHs cousin who is a Msgr. or FHs sister or a dear friend of mine) will be invited to the reception. I would probably extend the invite to an officiant whether we knew them personally or not. I think it's nice to have the person who married you celebrating with you.

May2704bride Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:07 AM

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Haven't decided yet but a lot people say that the proper thing to do is to invite him/her. Normally they do not come unless you've known them for quite some time.

AMinNYC Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:09 AM

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We invited our officiant, with a guest. He chose to only attend the cocktail hour for a little while (as I am told, most do).

THe person is marrying you, the only right thing to do is to invite him/her.

Sassyz75 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:11 AM

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I didn't invite mine b/c he just married us..we had no relationship with him.

2003OCT10 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:11 AM

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ALL of mine came!! ( The good thing about this though is that your Officiant counts as a vendor if they attend!)

luckylucy Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:13 AM

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Great, thanks for the feedback. I will definitely invite him!

2bewedin04 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:15 AM

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I think it depends on how well you know the officiant. If it's a one time person who you don't know well, no reason to invite. If you have some special relationship or he/she has done other events for your family, maybe yes.

Jordan Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:38 AM

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Hmmm...this is meant as no offense to anyone - just an observation/question...but if someone marries you - stranger or not - isn't there a bond there based on that reason alone?

nrvbrd Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:40 AM

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Mine came with his wife and I am so glad he did. He said the blessing at dinner and they had a great time!

btrflygrl Posted: Nov 11, 2003 11:59 AM

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Yes, because our first choice is FH youth pastor from when he was young and he is from out of town (we will also provide a hotel room for him if he needs it), our 2nd choice, again yes b/c he is also an OOT, 3rd choice yes, because it is the pastor at FH church.

wenndypoo Posted: Nov 11, 2003 12:10 PM

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I answered no in the poll, but I'm not sure yet. It is not someone we knew previously (vendor here). I know it is the correct thing to do, but still unsure. Would he feel uncomfortable with people he didn't know? Would he feel obligated to say yes? And if he did, who do we sit him with?
I don't know if the fact that he is marrying us constitutes a relationship...good question though.

Smolokoff Posted: Nov 11, 2003 08:56 PM

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The rabbi marrying us also did FH's Bar Mitzvah 20 years ago and was his teacher for Hebrew school and stuff. Lots of history there, so we will definitely be inviting him. Not sure if he will stay, but it's the thought that counts I guess.