FOR THOSE WHO MET THERE SO ONLINE..tmi

can u tell me...

how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?

how long until u talked on the phone?

did u talk online everyday?

how long till u met them in person?

what did u do when u first met in person?

how long till u kissed them?

how long till u were intimate?

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??


Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??


any or all q's answered would b helpful thanks!!!

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Posted by MuchInLuvMichi

can u tell me...

how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?

He was wearing a sarong in his picture... I thought it was hysterical so I had to write to him

how long until u talked on the phone?

Couple of weeks

did u talk online everyday?

No

how long till u met them in person?

3 weeks

what did u do when u first met in person?

Met at a coffee shop

how long till u kissed them?

2nd date

how long till u were intimate?

5th date

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??

Yes

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol

No

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?

More open in person

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??

No - knew he was the one right away when we first met in person

any or all q's answered would b helpful thanks!!!

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NEW FOR THOSE WHO MET THERE SO ONLINE..tmi
can u tell me...

how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?Well through a dating service, on the phone (really)

how long until u talked on the phone?We spoke on the phone for about 2 months before we met.

did u talk online everyday?We talked on the phone everyday.

how long till u met them in person?2 months about

what did u do when u first met in person?I said, 'well he's ok. Went in with an open mind.

how long till u kissed them? That same night!! :)

how long till u were intimate?Sorry too personal

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??not really


Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol no

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?we were very open.

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
a little bit.

any or all q's answered would b helpful thanks!!!

Message edited 10/25/2004 10:33:16 PM.
10/25/04 10:31:38 PM

Re: FOR THOSE WHO MET THERE SO ONLINE..tmi

Sorry Mich!

Even though I didn't meet my husband online, I DID meet him through a dating service on the phone. So I hope some of these answers help

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?
He was cute. Though in all honesty, initially he didn't seem too different from other online prospects.

how long until u talked on the phone?
About three weeks, but on eharmony.com the whole process is dragged out a bit...

did u talk online everyday?
No, in fact at one point about a week passed between responses and I thought I wasn't going to hear from him again.
how long till u met them in person?
A month, almost to the day.

what did u do when u first met in person?
He took me to a really nice restaurant in Manhattan for dinner.

how long till u kissed them?
Second date.


did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??
No- we'd both been doing the online thing a while.

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?
He was exactly as promised.

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
Not this person. I knew he was the one before date #2.

Re: FOR THOSE WHO MET THERE SO ONLINE..tmi

how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?

~Our situation was a little unusual, but I could sense they was just something different about him.

how long until u talked on the phone?

~'Met' online in October, talked on the phone for the first time on Thanksgiving evening

did u talk online everyday?

~Yes

how long till u met them in person?

~Met the first week in December

what did u do when u first met in person?

~We actually watched a Giants game.

how long till u kissed them?

~First date

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??

~Absolutely

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?

~Very honest

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??

~Not really

Re: FOR THOSE WHO MET THERE SO ONLINE..tmi

how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?
i liked his profile

how long until u talked on the phone?
about 2 days

did u talk online everyday?
after we exchange phone numbers we just talked on the phone

how long till u met them in person? 1 month

what did u do when u first met in person? i had just had surgery so he came over with flowers and we just sat and chatted

how long till u kissed them? first date

how long till u were intimate? i answered this in my classless thread lol

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??
yes we both thought it was strange but it felt great

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol we discussed sex

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone? i was a lil more guarded on line

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
oh my yes i did !!!!

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?

Don wasnt like all the other assholes who were just out for a booty call, he emailed me all his interests and pretty much his life story.

how long until u talked on the phone?

About a month.

did u talk online everyday?

Every couple of days

how long till u met them in person?

About 2 months.

what did u do when u first met in person?

Went for dinner and a walk in the park.

how long till u kissed them?

End of first date.

how long till u were intimate?

About 7 months in, but we already had begun to talk marriage.

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??

No, never came up, we just clicked.


Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol

Ummm, no this would of been a turnoff.

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?

I was quieter on the phone then online.

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??

No, absolutely not.

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ur all so awesome, for answering, thanks for ur honesty... please keep the posts coming:)

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different? we were a lot alike - grew up in the same areas

how long until u talked on the phone? a week or so

did u talk online everyday? no - emailed

how long till u met them in person? 2months

what did u do when u first met in person? went to dinner and drinks, walked around

how long till u kissed them? first day

how long till u were intimate? 3 weeks???

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right?? nah...


Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol - we didnt engage in cyber sex but we talked about sex a bit

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone? completely honest - its the best policy!

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person?? no - I already was falling in love from the phone conversations

Re: FOR THOSE WHO MET THERE SO ONLINE..tmi

Well Michi you already know 99% of my answers but I'll share again anyhow:

how come u connected with this person online, what made them different? It was a total fluke that we connected online, quite honestly. He contact me, mostly as a joke.. and neither one of us expected this incredibl romance. Off the bat I loved his sense of humor , and the fact that he just seemed so 'normal' and levelheaded and we had so much in common and similar upbringings. Oh yeah, and I thought he was sooo gorgeous

how long until u talked on the phone? we both hate the phone, so we waited awhile. 2 months

did u talk online everyday? we didn't do the 'IM' thing very much, but we exchanged at least 2-3 emails back and forth EVERY day. And they were pages and pages long.. I still have every one of them

how long till u met them in person? 3 months

what did u do when u first met in person? he came over to my apartment and we just talked and talked alll night until 5am the next am (and NO, nothing happened )

how long till u kissed them? first date

how long till u were intimate? 2nd date

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right?? I think we thought at first it was a little weird, but NOTHING ever felt as 'right' as we did when we met

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? honestly , we flirted a lot but never talked about sex or really 'went there' until after we met. No cyber sex or things of that nature, just a lot of 'innuendo' stuff but extremely innocent

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone? I believe that we were MORE honest than we would have been in person, without a doubt. We let our guard down to a huge degree when we would chat online. Both being so shy, expressing ourselves on paper was great for us

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person?? I knew I was already falling in love before I set eyes on him. By the following week after I met him, I was definitely in love

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?
His sense of humor and adventure. He wanted to go see 'final destination' with me. Plus I liked that he had a cat and loved it so

how long until u talked on the phone?
A while. I refused to give him my phone number, but I'd call him from a pay phone (to avoid caller id). We spoke very little before our first date

did u talk online everyday?
Not really, just weeknights and weekends, but I was seeing another guy so it was sorta off and on

how long till u met them in person?
About two weeks, to see the movie!

what did u do when u first met in person?
Saw a movie

how long till u kissed them?
two Months or so, We were friends first.

how long till u were intimate?
about three months

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??
Nope, nothing werid about it. We didnt use a dating service. Most of the folks we spoke to have met in person at one time or another, so what's the werid about it?

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol
haha sorry but no

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?
the same. Im an old time online gal and this 'room' was a place I was comfortable with and it was open to all, so no biggie

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
YES!! He was Chinese!! I never dated chinese before. If you'd asked me the first few weeks I'd have told you he was too nice and quiet to be serious with haha

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?

- He seemed really genuine when he responded to my add. I was new in town and he said that he'd show me around.

how long until u talked on the phone?

- We talked on the phone after about 2 weeks of exchanging emails.

did u talk online everyday?

- He didn't have a computer at the time, so he used his work computer. But his job caused him to be out in the field so he didn't have access everyday.

how long till u met them in person?

- It was about 3 1/2 weeks

what did u do when u first met in person?

- we had dinner and saw a movie

how long till u kissed them?

- He kissed me goodnight on the first date

how long till u were intimate?

- On our 3rd date, so about 6 weeks after he responded to my ad

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??

- For me it was weird bc I had never done it before or went out with someone. He had gone out with a few people he met online


Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met?

- Yeah somewhat. We talked about our experiences with too much detail.

did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol

- No

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?

- Always honest through the whole process

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??

- No

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?
**I liked his sense of humour. He made me laugh and I felt SO comfortable with him from the very start

how long until u talked on the phone?
**A few weeks (actually longer but we lost touch then I contacted him again a few months later...) We started 'chatting' at the beginning of the year. I started to date someone so I wanted to see where that was going. After that other relationship ended, I sent FH an e-mail saying if he was still interested, I would be interested in getting together with him. Around November, we started to 'chat' again. Due to the holidays, we slowed down the 'chatting' for a few weeks and spoke on the phone beginning of January. The first time he called I actually had to ask who he was

did u talk online everyday?
**Once we started with the phone, we spoke almost everyday. We would also IM each other to wish each other a good day

how long till u met them in person?
**At the end of January we agreed to meet up for a date. I guess it was really only a few weeks.

what did u do when u first met in person?
** Met for drinks

how long till u kissed them?
**2nd date

how long till u were intimate?
**about 2 weeks. We lived across the street from each other (ironically) so we saw each other a lot in those few weeks. It was probably about 4 or 5 dates.

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??
**The strangest thing for us was how much we have in common and that we never met before

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol
**heck no! I'm a bit of a prude when it comes to talking about that kind of stuff, especially with someone I do not know. I would have been really turned off.

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?
Extremely open and honest with each other from day one. At first we though it was too honest and we were going to scare the other one away but then we both realized we were better off with all the cards on the table. It has made our relationship that much stronger knowing everything about each other.

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
**I cam home from our first date and said to my room mate 'There's something about him'. I wasn't really sure what it was but I knew it was something!!

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different? I saw in his profile that he worked for a friend of the family or so I thought.

how long until u talked on the phone?
Every day for over a year

did u talk online everyday?
If not on line on the phone

how long till u met them in person?
about 6-8 mths

what did u do when u first met in person?
I was washing my car outside of my house and he drove by we talked for a few hours and he left.

how long till u kissed them?
Talking on the phone for a year, then met, then friends for another year but still not going out, then went out for dinner then kissed

how long till u were intimate?
couple of mths after we finally started dating

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??
Yes but it was more of a friendship that started than anything else

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? NO

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?
Equally open and honest, we had nothing to hid from each other

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
a little

Almost 6 years after meeting him we are getting married.

I hope this helps...

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how come u connected with this person online, what made them different?

The loyalty he had towards his friends and his love for cooking and baking-that is where my spark started.

how long until u talked on the phone?
2 days

did u talk online everyday?
No
how long till u met them in person?
3 days
what did u do when u first met in person?
We went for brunch in Port Jefferson at TOAST, I ate A LOT and I wasn't too sure about him, he was nice, but shy, I like more assertive guys.
how long till u kissed them?
It was a while-2 weeks????

how long till u were intimate?
About 3 or 4 months, but we did a few (HE did) others things....

did u both tell each other it was weird to have met online but it felt right??
Not really....

Did u talk about sex or being intimate b4 u met? did u engage in cyber or phone sex b4 meeting? lol
Nope

How honest and open were u online, compared to on the phone?
VERY honest...

Did they hafta grow on u once u met in person??
YES, but I was a tough cookie, I had a wall up around me and he pursued and after a while I started to bring down the wall, and things started to 'work' between us. It was not an easy start w/ us, but now 'we' are a great union!

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All I can say is give the (a) guy a chance!!!! I actually went to a tarot card reader and she told me to give him until September....and I did, we had our first day on Mother's Day, --and on July 2nd he told me he loved me when we went away for the first time together, then in September I KNEW he was the ONE....We moved intogether in October and we were married THIS OCTOBER and I am SOOO Happy.