Forgot to mention... Already issues with BILs!!

My mom just reminded me about two issues that happened at the wedding that didnt sit well with me..

Let me give you some background info...

DH (oooh first time I used that!!!) had his two brothers as his best men. The younger one (lets call him BM2) was the primary one, because at the time, he was more responsible than the older one (BM1)

Well.. BM1 did not go upstate with DH and his friends for his Bachelor party because he couldn't afford it.. THey stayed at a friends cabin and bought food at costco.. How much would it have really cost.

DH asked BM2 to do the speech. Last week he asked him if he had worked on it and he hadnt, he was going to wing it...

At the Rehearsal Dinner, when we gave out the gift, neither of them, along with his cousin, gave me a hug or kiss on the cheek to thank me... my girls and his friends who were groomsmen did...

Fast foward to the wedding...
BM2 gives the speech, and in it says something to the extent that Brian could've done better than me.. The kid is 18, probably decided to still wing it after DH told him not too, and could've fumbled up the words. Okay, so whatever.. but when he was done, he gave DH a hug and not me....My whole family was FUMING!

THEN on the sign in board I made, BM1 wrote...' I shouldn't have to write here since I'm your brother. But seriously, I'm proud of you even if I don't show it.. And I still have your back if Megan dumps you.'
***!?!?! I want to hang this up and this totally ruins all the other nice things written on the board.

I told DH that I feel like his brothers don't like me and he says they do, but that he is fed up with them as well... I seriously want nothing to do with them and we've only been married 3 days!

How would you feel?

WHY on earth would some one write that on a sign in board???

I can see your mom and family being mad for the issues at the RD and also the not so intelligent speach.. but the sign in board is just plain RUDE.

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Posted by Kimbalina

WHY on earth would some one write that on a sign in board???

I can see your mom and family being mad for the issues at the RD and also the not so intelligent speach.. but the sign in board is just plain RUDE.

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I know.. they have no class what-so-ever. To me, its saying, he's waiting for us to get divorced.

Guys are just stupid some times and do things without thinking---especially if they're not mature and aren't in a relationship (and therefore don't have a good woman to stop them from doing stupid things).

Hopefully u r on your honeymoon now and can't take a break and relax w/ your new hubbie!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by skinny237

Guys are just stupid some times and do things without thinking---especially if they're not mature and aren't in a relationship (and therefore don't have a good woman to stop them from doing stupid things).

Hopefully u r on your honeymoon now and can't take a break and relax w/ your new hubbie!!!!!!!!!

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I'm actually at work.. We leave for the HM next Tuesday

The comment on the board may have just his lame attempt at humor or just plain being a d*ck! But, the comment during the toast, winging it or not, was pretty sh*tty! I feel for you. At least your DH is fed up with them too. Did you DH say anything to them about the way they're behaving?

I'm sorry... not to add fuel to the fire or upset you further but that speech was terrible. Me and Mike just stared at each other in shock. We were so busy being appalled that we didn't even notice he did not hug you! I know he is a young kid but he was definitely old enough to know better!

As for the other one.. I am guessing that was an extremely poor attempt at a joke?????? That is extremely rude to say and in bad taste!!! If it makes you feel any better my uncle told my dad on his wedding VIDEO 'I hope your next wedding is as good as this one' or something to that effect!

I say you just white-out waht he wrote.. I didn't get a chance to sign it so I will gladly write over him!

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Posted by Gigi08

The comment on the board may have just his lame attempt at humor or just plain being a d*ck! But, the comment during the toast, winging it or not, was pretty sh*tty! I feel for you. At least your DH is fed up with them too. Did you DH say anything to them about the way they're behaving?

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No he didnt.. I want him too but I dont want to cause more issues. I dont know how to go about it

The speech and the comment on the signature board were both rude and tasteless!!! I'm fuming for you over here!!!!

Megan, I can usually see the other side of things, but not in this case. I totally agree with you. He was wrong for his speech and not hugging you AND ridiculous for writing that on the board.
I'm sorry!

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Posted by NikkiR515

I'm sorry... not to add fuel to the fire or upset you further but that speech was terrible. Me and Mike just stared at each other in shock. We were so busy being appalled that we didn't even notice he did not hug you! I know he is a young kid but he was definitely old enough to know better!

As for the other one.. I am guessing that was an extremely poor attempt at a joke?????? That is extremely rude to say and in bad taste!!! If it makes you feel any better my uncle told my dad on his wedding VIDEO 'I hope your next wedding is as good as this one' or something to that effect!

I say you just white-out waht he wrote.. I didn't get a chance to sign it so I will gladly write over him!

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YES, Sign over it!!! I was wondering if it would look bad to white it out.. My Uncle Mike was ready to start a fight and my other Uncle had to calm him down While I'm hurt, I'm not suprised by it.

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Posted by SparkyandAng



Megan, I can usually see the other side of things, but not in this case. I totally agree with you. He was wrong for his speech and not hugging you AND ridiculous for writing that on the board.
I'm sorry!

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Thank you.. I was trying to see the other side of it as well.. glad I'm not the only one who would feel like this

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Posted by Gigi08

The comment on the board may have just his lame attempt at humor or just plain being a d*ck! But, the comment during the toast, winging it or not, was pretty sh*tty! I feel for you. At least your DH is fed up with them too. Did you DH say anything to them about the way they're behaving?

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No he didnt.. I want him too but I dont want to cause more issues. I dont know how to go about it

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How old is the older one? I don't think it's acceptable, but it could just be their immaturity. I'm sorry you have to put up with this bull...if it continues maybe then ask your DH to talk to them. At some point, he may get fed up enough and put them in their place. Hang in there!

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Posted by Gigi08

The comment on the board may have just his lame attempt at humor or just plain being a d*ck! But, the comment during the toast, winging it or not, was pretty sh*tty! I feel for you. At least your DH is fed up with them too. Did you DH say anything to them about the way they're behaving?

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No he didnt.. I want him too but I dont want to cause more issues. I dont know how to go about it

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How old is the older one? I don't think it's acceptable, but it could just be their immaturity. I'm sorry you have to put up with this bull...if it continues maybe then ask your DH to talk to them. At some point, he may get fed up enough and put them in their place. Hang in there!

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He'll be 26 next month

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Posted by Gigi08

The comment on the board may have just his lame attempt at humor or just plain being a d*ck! But, the comment during the toast, winging it or not, was pretty sh*tty! I feel for you. At least your DH is fed up with them too. Did you DH say anything to them about the way they're behaving?

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No he didnt.. I want him too but I dont want to cause more issues. I dont know how to go about it

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How old is the older one? I don't think it's acceptable, but it could just be their immaturity. I'm sorry you have to put up with this bull...if it continues maybe then ask your DH to talk to them. At some point, he may get fed up enough and put them in their place. Hang in there!

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He'll be 26 next month

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They just sound disrespectful. I can see him wanting to keep peace, because you can't fight about every little thing, but I'm just blown away by the speech....that was just so out of line. It's already done, but he really should at least put him in his place for that one. He's probably jealouse that his brother found such a nice girl!

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Posted by SparkyandAng



Megan, I can usually see the other side of things, but not in this case. I totally agree with you. He was wrong for his speech and not hugging you AND ridiculous for writing that on the board.
I'm sorry!

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Thank you.. I was trying to see the other side of it as well.. glad I'm not the only one who would feel like this

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i completely agree. he was rude for not hugging you and writing that on the sign board as well as was the other Bm for his comment during the toast. i mean i know he is young but come on now. RUDE

could you maybe have your DH talk to his brothers?

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Posted by SparkyandAng



Megan, I can usually see the other side of things, but not in this case. I totally agree with you. He was wrong for his speech and not hugging you AND ridiculous for writing that on the board.
I'm sorry!

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Thank you.. I was trying to see the other side of it as well.. glad I'm not the only one who would feel like this

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i completely agree. he was rude for not hugging you and writing that on the sign board as well as was the other Bm for his comment during the toast. i mean i know he is young but come on now. RUDE

could you maybe have your DH talk to his brothers?

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I'm going to tell him to talk to his older brother tonight about what he wrote when he calls and tells him to email us pictures. I just don't want to start more problems.

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Posted by Gigi08

The comment on the board may have just his lame attempt at humor or just plain being a d*ck! But, the comment during the toast, winging it or not, was pretty sh*tty! I feel for you. At least your DH is fed up with them too. Did you DH say anything to them about the way they're behaving?

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No he didnt.. I want him too but I dont want to cause more issues. I dont know how to go about it

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How old is the older one? I don't think it's acceptable, but it could just be their immaturity. I'm sorry you have to put up with this bull...if it continues maybe then ask your DH to talk to them. At some point, he may get fed up enough and put them in their place. Hang in there!

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He'll be 26 next month

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They just sound disrespectful. I can see him wanting to keep peace, because you can't fight about every little thing, but I'm just blown away by the speech....that was just so out of line. It's already done, but he really should at least put him in his place for that one. He's probably jealouse that his brother found such a nice girl!

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Thats gotta be it... I dont see any other explanation