Freaking out

MF9282 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:46 PM

Freaking out

Ladies help me,
I am PMS'ing and so sorry if I have seemed to be a nut on these posts. No one else understands. Well to update al who do not know I have the FSIL from hell who is always cruel and mean and is used to getting her way. She goes tot he extent of making me uncomfortable in her presence. Well she took certain things too far once sum1 deliberately hurts my feelings there is no fixing it and I will no longer be a pushover. She is no longer in my bridal party. I went to my first gathering today and the girls selected and put deposits on their gowns. It was a rocky start but I was so happy with the outcome!!! I asked FH to ask his mom when she got home if she preferred to speak to the sister and take her little girl who knows she is a flowergirl for the dress or if she thought it would be better for me to call her and pick up the FG. Well FMIL says to FH, she really isn't having her and he said I told she is tired of her nonsense and purposely being rude. ANd she said well she may not allow ...to be in the wedding than. Is she serious??? U expect me to allow ur daughter to treat me like garbage!!!!! And eh just sits here!!! ***!!! I am having awful miserable night. I went in there and said I will not let her ruin it for a little girl. inform them where the place is and to go do it themselves they have the style numbers I want no part of her any long but I won't let a child suffer for it unlike her mother who will. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

eunicsd006 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:50 PM

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i can relate to wat ur going through..but good for u in telling them how u feel..... ..i think its very childish to ruin it for the little girl...

Mdolph6 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:50 PM

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I am sorry that you have to deal with the lovely EVIL FSIL. I have the SAME situation but only with my situation my FMIL is making us have her in the wedding party and all though its out wedding there is nothing we can do about it.
Do your best to try and not let her get under your skin because it only makes things worse,....I am a month an a half away from our wedding and I havent had a happy moment since the day I was told she had to be in the wedding party...

aprlflwr Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:51 PM

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I am so sorry you have to deal with this drama. No one should be treated that way. I don't know the whole history between you and your FSIL, but she sounds like a b!tch. Good for you for deciding not to be a pushover anymore. The more you stick up for yourself, the less people will try to drive you nuts.
Hang in there.

raema29 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:51 PM

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sorry your fsil is so mean to you ... i know it must suck but just hang in there .. you just worry about you .. in time hopefully they see how wrong they are ....

MF9282 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:57 PM

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I am so upset!!! I am so tired of this! Is his mom nuts??? Perhaps she should tell her daughter to cut the ****! Its insane I knwo they are my family now also but ya know what no one has to tolerate such ********! On Christmas we had a gift for his sister and on the way to his aunts house he tells me that his mother informed him that his sister did not get us any gifts I said screw that I am not giving her anything !!! How dare she do that !!! Someone needs to put her in her place!! Why do FSIL's do this???????????????????

vmystique33 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 10:59 PM

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People really s**K sometimesbut good for you You need to stand up for yourself

MimiMcG Posted: Dec 30, 2006 11:16 PM

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I am sorry you have to deal with this nonsense! This is supposed to be the happiest time of our lives and it seems that there is always some B!tch out there who wants to spread misery! I have been having some major issues with my FMIL, so i completely understanding feeling this way! You are handling this situaiton the best you can!!!

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hang in there!!!

snydl40 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 11:22 PM

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Good for you. Don't let your FSIL push you around.

kns11 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 11:22 PM

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Melissa I'm so sorry your dealing with this. I think your FMIL and FSIL are having secret meeting with mine!!!!! I too have been through hell with the two of them. My FMIL and FSIL really pissed FH and I prior to and post E-party. GET THIS: FSIL came to my E-party and never gave us a card of gift. When we called to ask about it she said 'she FORGOT.' To this date we have gotten nothing. Not even the utterance happy engagement. FMIL gave us crap because she wanted to be involved in the E-party planning. We asked her to get us our cake. She said fine and was thrilled...then we find out she asked her daughter to do (same one) and when she didn't agree asked her daughter in law to do it (she has 4 kids under the age of 13). She then has her sister help her out. Turns out they get it but instead of fall leaves (our theme) she gets what looks like a chile pepper (pics in album). FSIL even tried to leave the party(with one of her nephwes) without saying goodbye to us. I opened up my loud mouth and shouted 'Hey thanks for coming, hope you had a great time, bye to you too, and we'll see you soon.' She cames back and says goodbye with a devil look plaster to her face. I was not about to let her disrespect me at a party that I paid 1/2 for. Plus I was annoyed that she grabbed my FNIL and did not allow me to say goodbye. I have come to the sad conclusion that some of my in laws will just continue to go out of their way to try to dampen our happiness and ruin parties that celebrate our future union. Like they say...Kill them with kindness, it's the best revenge.

MF9282 Posted: Dec 31, 2006 12:34 AM

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Thanks girls! I have been having the ultimate melt down. I just can't understand this and my family opens their arms to him with such love why does this ***** have to do this and his mom thinsk i should tolerate it. I am so tired of it. Thank u so much girls means so much to have some people listen and re assure me I am not insane!!!

TeddyFrogsDivaBride Posted: Dec 31, 2006 10:43 AM

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I can relate, I have my Fh's father's girlfriend (got that?) giving me a hard time about getting a dress...now, it would be fine and I would trust her, but her taste is AWFUL...it is sad that the poor little girl is going to be the one to bear the wrath, but hang in there!!

SoulMates422 Posted: Dec 31, 2006 11:50 AM

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I am happy that you stuck up for yourself. Just because they are your FILs does not mean that you have to take their crap. I wish you luck and hope that it gets better.

MF9282 Posted: Dec 31, 2006 12:07 PM

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Thanks gals!!!!!!

PreshusSmurf Posted: Dec 31, 2006 12:34 PM

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Future Mrs. Posted: Dec 31, 2006 12:39 PM

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this is crazy drama.
Perhaps you can sit down with FSIL and find out why she dislikes you so much?
Is she jealous? Protective of her brother? Why doesn't she accept you?
As far as the FG....it is her daughter so you cannot tell her/advise her what to do. I recommend sitting down with her, addressing it immediately, and finding out what the root of the problem is.
You are her new family and this is not a very good start.
Nip it in the bud

MF9282 Posted: Dec 31, 2006 12:44 PM

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I have tried over and over again. She has been very negative from day one, she is the only daughter and has three brothers she is impossible and expects every1 to cater to her and is used to it and hates the fact that her brother no longer lives for her and her children. Its a long story but to make it short her husband basically stole/used money someone owed my FH to pay a debt of his and it wa a large sum. It was an ongoing feud but my FH for the sake of his mother, family every1 ended dropping the whole situation so we'd all get along. I didn't think he should drop the subject but I tried my best to support him and I guess it was ok for us to pretend the sit. never happened to forget that he took money from us when we have a wedding to pay for! yet she does not send me a xmas card sends one to my gf who dates my FBIL and decided she does not wnat to give either of us Xmas gifts after we got her and her family gifts, and on Xmas was just obnoxious. I am so emotionally exhausted and tired of crying. His mom knows hwo she is so just tolerates it. She just won't listen to reason. Ughh
Sorry so long ladies