My bridesmaids have planned a bachelorette weekend for me. I know it's somewhere that requires a flight, and I know it's a warm summery climate, but they aren't planning on telling me the location until I get on the plane!!!!!
This is giving me such anxiety. Everyone is telling me to relax and enjoy the surprise, but I can't. I want to know exactly what outfits I want to wear and if there are any places I'd like to go. Am I being unreasonable???? I want them to tell me!
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The fact that they gave you a climate should be enough...you'll probably need to overpack because you aren't sure exactly where or what you'll be doing, but maybe ask one of your bridesmaids to look at what you pack and remove/add things for you.
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At least you know it will be warm...it sounds like fun!! ENJOY!!!
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If you are truly freaking out and it's giving you unnecessary anxiety I would just tell your MOH that the surprise is not fun for you and you NEED to know. Once she sees how serious you are hopefully she will comply. Does your FH know where you will be? Maybe he can let you in on the secret without telling any of the girls that you know. I HATE surprises so I dont blame you for wanting to know. I could never travel and have no idea where I was going until I arrived at the airport!
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The climate is not enough for me...I'm neurotic enough as it is, and this is adding to my stress! If we're going to the Bahamas, I'll pack sundresses and flip flops. If we're going to Miami, I'll pack tight dresses and heels. I want to be comfortable.
Yes, FH knows, but he won't budge. He accidentally ruined my shower surprise and told me he would never do it again...he's keeping mum! I told my BMs today that it's not fun anymore and I'm serious. I'll be so much more excited if I know the location!!!
I don't mean to sound like a spoiled brat. I trust and appreciate their planning....I just want to feel comfortable.
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Posted by KroertGS
The climate is not enough for me...I'm neurotic enough as it is, and this is adding to my stress! If we're going to the Bahamas, I'll pack sundresses and flip flops. If we're going to Miami, I'll pack tight dresses and heels. I want to be comfortable.
Yes, FH knows, but he won't budge. He accidentally ruined my shower surprise and told me he would never do it again...he's keeping mum! I told my BMs today that it's not fun anymore and I'm serious. I'll be so much more excited if I know the location!!!
I don't mean to sound like a spoiled brat. I trust and appreciate their planning....I just want to feel comfortable.
You don't sound like a brat at all. I would feel the exact same way! I hope someone budges for you so you can enjoy your trip and the excitment leading up to it!
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Sounds like the best thing you can do is over pack. Pack an outfit for each scenerio
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Haha we are the same... hating wedding planning, hate surprises I would honestly freak out too, I don't even like when FH tries to surprise me. I know it's messed up but it's how I am. I say try to relax at least, once you get there you will know and it will be fun
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Why not have one of your bridesmaids pack for you
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I would feel the same way if I were you. Try asking one of them to help you pack. Insist that if they won't tell you then at least one of them has to help you pack so you have appropriate clothing because different cities will require different types of outfits.
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Why not have one of your bridesmaids pack for you
This!
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Why not have one of your bridesmaids pack for you
I'm way too picky to allow anyone to pack a weekend for me. LOL....I envy you girls who are capable of doing this.
I told them they need to tell me and that it's making me get upset and have anxiety....I think they are going to tell me next weekend in a fun way.
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I totally get the anxiety of it but it also sound really awesome!
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just over pack and enjoy I wish I was getting that kind of treatment from my girls! :)
KroertGS
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Posted by MsErikaLynn
just over pack and enjoy I wish I was getting that kind of treatment from my girls! :)
Ugh, you're right. I'm being a little bit of a brat.
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just over pack and enjoy I wish I was getting that kind of treatment from my girls! :)
Seriously! I'm planning everything myself and its annoying...
The grass is always greener on the other side
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Why not have one of your bridesmaids pack for you
I'm way too picky to allow anyone to pack a weekend for me. LOL....I envy you girls who are capable of doing this.
I told them they need to tell me and that it's making me get upset and have anxiety....I think they are going to tell me next weekend in a fun way.
That's a good idea- you can be 'surprised' but still know in time to pack, etc!
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Posted by MsErikaLynn
just over pack and enjoy I wish I was getting that kind of treatment from my girls! :)
Seriously! I'm planning everything myself and its annoying...
The grass is always greener on the other side
Same! I'm basically planning my own. I'm sick of planning so it's going to turn into a nice dinner and a bar which whatever, it's fine with me, I don't get together with the girls all the time anyway.
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My MOH asked if I wanted to be surprised and I told her since I have anxiety I would be better knowing where we were going and she was just fine with telling me.
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I kind of want my BMs to do that now. I don't think they're coordinated enough though.
This is exciting!! I'm sure whatever they have planned is going to be a blast no matter what you end up bringing to wear!!
