(From BHB) Another babies at wedding question....

I know, I don't know what to do either. FI's first cousins are 8 and 10 and I really don't want kids coming. He's not really close to them, and dont' really see the need for children to be there, it's alot of $ to be paying.

I know his aunt is going to freak, how do we tell them?

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Posted by JeanineHubert

Me and FH decided we do NOT want any kids at our wedding....it's just too many kids and they are at $60 pp...so we feel like its a waste...the only 'kids' will be his sisters 2-who are actually in our wedding party. He also has 3 first cousins who are 4, 5, and 12, who will also be in our wedding party.

Well, we were going over the list the other day, and his mom included FH's first cousins kids, so they are actually his 2nd cousins..,I'm like, sorry, no way...and his mother gave me a weird look. She said that FH's aunt would be very offended...well too bad!!!! NO kids were invited to our engagement party, and we liked it like that....How do I tell her AND other people that ask, in a NICE way, that they're kisd arent invited?

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OMG!! This is the SAME situation that i am in. Fh adn I decided on THE DAY that we got engaged that we werent going to have kids..too much money TOO many kids. And FMIL said that FH's aunt would be offended. I said OH WELL!!! I asked FH to explain it to his mother so that I didnt seem like the bad guy all by myself. If his aunt is offended the too bad.

ETA: We have just been mentioning it in conversation so that everyone is aware ahead of time. This way noone is surprised. I think that my FMIL wants to offer her house up to leave the kids during teh reception and have an older cousin watch all of the kids. I am cool with that, but I AM NOt paying for a babysitting services...even if it is family.