Frustrated and upset with FH (LONG VENT)

Sorry, I just need to vent!
I have done everything for this wedding-- I have done ALL the research and all the planning. He has just come on a few appointments-but I am the one who research all of it out beforehand!!! so he was just there to act like he was doing something!

OK--so here is where i just can't take it!!
Now, his parents wanted us to find a place for the rehearsal dinner--- has he done anything more than-- Oh, Kat--we need to find a place soon.' NOOOOOOO!
So I call him today, tell him I called a couple of places and got quotes and made an appt to look at them tomorrow--- He says 'No way I can't'
OK fine.
So I ask if he can call his mom to verify how many people will be coming to the dinner so I can speak to the places again and get a more accurate idea of which rooms, blah blah blah
He says no.
WHAT?????? he can't make one simple phone call? I feel uncomfortable speaking to her about prices and whatnot-- I don't know what they want to spend & so forth! Why am I doing all of this?
I also am rushing out to get our wedding favors today-- am I super woman??????!!!!!!
To top it all off he forgot Precana was tomorrow night! UGH!!!!!!!!! Thanks for letting me vent

sounds like you need a hug

Im sorry
Have a chat with him about how you are feeling.

that's what really *****-- we had the talk....he knows I am overwhelmed....he just doesn't get it!

sorry you are going through this!! I feel the same way with FH too! His job was to book the HM and now it has turned into my job!
Don;t worry just think how proud you will feel on your wedding day knowing you planned and put this great day together!!!!

They really just don't get it!
It's hard because they don't think about things like we do, little details don't matter to them and to us it's the tiny details that make the day your own. I always tell FH that when things get done it's because I made it happen, I did it. We don't have a fairy prancing around sprinkling fairy dust, ok maybe we do but it's ME, lol. Well just take a deep breath and remember why you're doing this to begin with.

Something that we talked about in pre-cana is that neither one of us involved in the relationship is a mind reader...so I would first let him know how you feel about the whole wedding planning thing- does he know that you feel this way? I think guys often times feel like the women want to plan the weddings on their own anyways- that maybe they don't want a say.

About the RD- I know exactly how you feel because I was there a few months ago. I had thought it was my FILs to decide on a place, but somehow, I went out with FH looking for places and I too didn't know their price range, so we would go to a place and I thought it was okay and FH would flip out about the price. So I of course got mad too- I didn't think I would have to go looking around at places!! It is very frustrating and I know it's uncomfortable, but I would ask them for a price range.

Feel better!!

I hope it works out for you!!! Did he say why he couldn't make these phone calls? Is it a possibility that he wants you to feel closer to your in-laws by calling yourself? Sorry, just trying to play optomist here

It sounds to me like you're marrying my FH


I'm sorry it's not funny - it's annoying, I know. My FH didn't even see the catering hall and he's only met one vendor - the band. Go figure.

Here's some hugs

and dont forget to whack that boy into taking you to a romantic dinner.