FSIL as a BM
So we sort of have a dilemma that I want to leave the decision up to FH but he is being wishy washy about it, so I thought I would get your girls opinions.
FH has an older sister who has 3 kids all under the age of 5. The oldest is autistic and doesn't listen to a word anyone says. He'll run out the front door at FIL's house and right into the street. If he doesn't get his way he has a fit and screams, cries and bangs his head on the floor. Besides that ball of fun she has a 3 year old daughter and a 1 year old son, neither of whom listen either because they see their older brother gets away with it. FH's sister also isn't the best at keeping her eyes on the kids. She goes to FIL's every weekend and expects everyone to run after the kids but herself, this happens a lot when FH and I are there visiting. (Hello I didn't come here to be a babysitter).
Anyway, FH's niece (the 3 year old) will be our FG. I couldn't say no, because my nephew is being the RB. FH has been throwing around the idea that his sister be a BM (he thinks she would be really excited about it). Normally I would understand this, it's his only sister. However, FIL's husband is a schmuck and doesn't come to any family functions, so he probably won't come to our wedding. And I really don't think, especially if she is in the BP, that FSIL is going to be able to control her children. And FIL's certainly can't be helping her when they are trying to take pics with us an such. Especially since we're getting married on the beach, I can just see FH's nephew running into the water or something.
FSIL has mentioned finding a babysitter for the day of the wedding. Having the kids come to the ceremony and then send them back to the hotel with a sitter-so really she plans on bringing all of them with her. However, I don't know where she is going to find someone, as they aren't from NY and I don't know of anyone (plus I wouldn't subject someone I know to those kids). So, especially if FSIL plans on bringing all 3 kids to the wedding, I don't think it is feasible for her to be in the BP. If she isn't in the BP I would have her do one of the readings. What do you girls think? Am I being unreasonable? Would you have her in your BP?
FH has an older sister who has 3 kids all under the age of 5. The oldest is autistic and doesn't listen to a word anyone says. He'll run out the front door at FIL's house and right into the street. If he doesn't get his way he has a fit and screams, cries and bangs his head on the floor. Besides that ball of fun she has a 3 year old daughter and a 1 year old son, neither of whom listen either because they see their older brother gets away with it. FH's sister also isn't the best at keeping her eyes on the kids. She goes to FIL's every weekend and expects everyone to run after the kids but herself, this happens a lot when FH and I are there visiting. (Hello I didn't come here to be a babysitter).
Anyway, FH's niece (the 3 year old) will be our FG. I couldn't say no, because my nephew is being the RB. FH has been throwing around the idea that his sister be a BM (he thinks she would be really excited about it). Normally I would understand this, it's his only sister. However, FIL's husband is a schmuck and doesn't come to any family functions, so he probably won't come to our wedding. And I really don't think, especially if she is in the BP, that FSIL is going to be able to control her children. And FIL's certainly can't be helping her when they are trying to take pics with us an such. Especially since we're getting married on the beach, I can just see FH's nephew running into the water or something.
FSIL has mentioned finding a babysitter for the day of the wedding. Having the kids come to the ceremony and then send them back to the hotel with a sitter-so really she plans on bringing all of them with her. However, I don't know where she is going to find someone, as they aren't from NY and I don't know of anyone (plus I wouldn't subject someone I know to those kids). So, especially if FSIL plans on bringing all 3 kids to the wedding, I don't think it is feasible for her to be in the BP. If she isn't in the BP I would have her do one of the readings. What do you girls think? Am I being unreasonable? Would you have her in your BP?
