FSIL out of the wedding!

TLC1018 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 09:31 AM

FSIL out of the wedding!

For anyone keeping count, this is now two people that have pulled out of my wedding party! Her and I don't really get along, I had her in the wedding initially because it meant a lot to my FH. She has given us trouble from the beginning of our engagement and this is the best thing that really could have happened. She never even picked up her BM dress from the store, so I knew it was coming. When she was still part of the BP, she responded 'no' to both of the bachelorette parties (2 months in advance) and is not even going to my shower (which she refused to RSVP for, she just told FH that she is not going and wasn't calling anyone to respond). When FH and I tried to talk to her calmly about things, she started a huge fight and left the house (drama is her middle name!).
I really think the fact that this day is not about her is driving her up the wall. It's all jealousy and resentment! Let's see if she sends back a response for the wedding!
I am super jealous of anyone with great in-laws, because mine leave a lot to be desired...It's a really good thing that I love my FH so much!!

AllJoy Posted: Feb 25, 2007 09:35 AM

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I'm sorry you are going through with us, but its good she backed up, so you won't be getting stress from her that day.

natseven Posted: Feb 25, 2007 10:05 AM

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wow! so sorry you have to deal with this. In a way i'm glad FH is an only child....so much less drama. It's so sad your FSIL is acting like this but your day will go much smoother without her being a part of it. Hopefully she'll grow up one day.

JKamore Posted: Feb 25, 2007 10:13 AM

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wow.... sounds like my FSIL!!!! At our engagement party she never said congrats and never got us a gift. We've been engaged since Oct of 2005 and has never once said anything about our wedding. Trouble is her middle name so I never asked her to be a BM. In laws can stink sometimes!!! Sorry that your FSIL has to treat you that way!

PegaLega Posted: Feb 25, 2007 10:14 AM

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Sounds like she needs to get over herself! Im sorry she is out but really its a good thing for you-now you dont have to deal with her causing drama the morning of while you are getting ready

MF9282 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 10:17 AM

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GOOD FOR U!!!
I have the same EXACT issue with mine and I am telling u once she got pulled from the BP it was smoothe sailing. This is the bestw edding gift she can give you!!!

I PROMISE!!!!

PS It also let's FH see whata witch his sister is w/o having to come right out and say it. FM check in 5 mins....

GwynethBride Posted: Feb 25, 2007 10:34 AM

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TLC1018 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 11:27 AM

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Thanks girls for your support! It means a lot!
I am so glad she won't be in the wedding and in all my pictures!
It's a good thing that I had a big BP to begin with...I lost my MOH and a BM!
I feel bad for my FH, that is the only person that she hurts. I could care less.
I am looking forward to a great wedding with No DRAMA!!!

Becks526 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 03:29 PM

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Posted by PegaLega

Sounds like she needs to get over herself! Im sorry she is out but really its a good thing for you-now you dont have to deal with her causing drama the morning of while you are getting ready

I agree completely! I hope your remaining BMs are there for you every step of the way!

luvabul Posted: Feb 25, 2007 03:49 PM

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sorry to hear that, atleast ur FH is supportive and agrees, and dont let FSIL, ruin your dayyy

p.s- my inlaws leave a lot to be desired too

TLC1018 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 06:30 PM

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Posted by luvabul

sorry to hear that, atleast ur FH is supportive and agrees, and dont let FSIL, ruin your dayyy

p.s- my inlaws leave a lot to be desired too

OK, glad I am not the only one!

BrideChrissy Posted: Feb 25, 2007 06:34 PM

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OMG sorry you have to have such a horible FSIL but at least she is out of it and you don't have to deal with her nonsense anymore.

kns11 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 09:38 PM

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Posted by JKamore

wow.... sounds like my FSIL!!!! At our engagement party she never said congrats and never got us a gift. We've been engaged since Oct of 2005 and has never once said anything about our wedding. Trouble is her middle name so I never asked her to be a BM. In laws can stink sometimes!!! Sorry that your FSIL has to treat you that way!

Jamie I feel your pain! We share similar stories! I have 2 FSIL. One I cannot stand and never consider asking to be in BP (nor would she say yes). The other one I tolerate and she bitc#ed and moaned to be in BP. To date she did not come to engagement party let alone send a card or gift. The other FSIL came to engagement party & did not say hello or goodbye and never brought a gift or card. I really don't understand why in-laws have to be such pain in the a##s. Life and relationships are hard enough without all the family bulls$%.

Sorry you had to deal with this! There should be a set of Hallmark cards which gently deal with these type of issues.

snydl40 Posted: Feb 25, 2007 09:46 PM

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Sorry you had to deal with the drama, but at least she is one less thing to worry about.

AlliCatB Posted: Feb 25, 2007 09:47 PM

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it stinks that this is so drama but it sounds like you have a great attitude about it! celebrate!

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Feb 26, 2007 08:30 AM

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And here I was thinking I was the only person ever to have had 2 BM's drop out of the wedding. I know how you feel. My FSIL was one of them. FM me if you need to talk about it. I am so sorry you are going through this!!!

hmv12 Posted: Feb 26, 2007 09:19 AM

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Posted by AllJoy

I'm sorry you are going through with us, but its good she backed up, so you won't be getting stress from her that day.

I agree, less stress for you

BubbasBride Posted: Feb 26, 2007 10:32 AM

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Sounds like you are better off!

Mooshyboo Posted: Feb 26, 2007 10:43 AM

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awww i am sorry to hear this ~ i have great future in law family (but a not so good mother side ~ mom/stepdad...not in my life) but i have a great dad and stepmom... so i sorta know how you feel!

mskittynj Posted: Feb 26, 2007 12:05 PM

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awwww, Feel for you hunny, In laws are usually a 'complicated' item lol I am not lucky either! Things happen for a reason, now you will be surrounded by people who really care about you and your FH!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty