Fuming at FH

Fanoula169 Posted: May 16, 2012 11:05 PM

Fuming at FH

I am ready to stab my FH in the eyes today, thank goodness i was talking to him over the phone and not in person cus I might have. First of to start all my parent said for my FH's family to cover is Limos, video and photography....i know it might be a little difficult for them to cover all so i said whatever they can't cover i will pay the difference no problem...Apparantly my FH has turned into a complete chepo (he was never a chepo)and does not believe Cinematography wedding videos should cost alot and can not believe that any wedding video is expensive....and as i quote 'did you do any research or are you going by word of mouth and listening to those girls (cheeky)' (this got me even furious cus i love cheeky) I told him i wanted AJ and that was the end of the story and he tried to go off on me and i told him to shush the heck up and I did do my research. I actually didnt but he doesnt know that, i just want AJ end of story. Most of you know the issues i have been going through at home with my parents (things are finally good, by some miracle) and the last crap i need to deal with is this. Im tired of people telling me what do, so im finally putting my foot down. Now I am in a little pickle, can anyone email me quotes that they have recieved from other videographers, ill inbox you my email adress if you have any pdf versions so i can show FH I do have other quotes...I thought boys stayed out of wedding planning why the heck does mine want to but in now, soooo annoying!!!!!

scottsbride Posted: May 17, 2012 08:56 AM

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We are going with classic video. I dont know if they do the cinematic stuff but we are paying about 2k. As far as people telling you what to do wait till you have a kid then everyone will be trying to tell you what you should be doing. I cant tell you how many times Ive said 'yea i got this'

Courtz Posted: May 17, 2012 09:01 AM

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FM me your email address.

And DON'T fight about this hun... I learned very quickly not to stress certain things.
He will come around!
I had some of the same issues when booking Photo and Video because I also wanted who I wanted, but I also did a lot of research.
Pick and Choice you battles.

Guys don't get certain things. I am a believer in you pay for what you get, but you also don't want to over pay for the same product you can get elsewhere.

I know you have had it rough with wedding planning but try to focus the anger on who it's really on. Maybe your parents? I do this all the time. I take things out on FH and not the person I'm really annoyed with... I think most people do that. But I have been changing that and it's made our communication so much better and... 'I get what I want' LOL

Irishbride16 Posted: May 17, 2012 09:04 AM

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Yea i understand me and the FH have the same fights over the wedding and now we want to buy a house and we got into it again ...him saying that he is doing this all for me ..crap and he said this whole wedding is too much money ....but i know and im working three dam jobs to do stuff and FH feels that i dont do anything arrrrr...

But i really think guys just dont see it from our point of view..but feel better im sure everything will work and to tell you the trust getting video is a great idea b/c all my of friends are married and one of them didnt get the video and she was so upset by this b/c in the video u see things that u miss out on ...and my friends that did get the video said they were so happy b/c they got to see everything ...good luck!!!!!!

* And you can always talk them down....

futurearias Posted: May 17, 2012 09:39 AM

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they only wanna be apart of the money situtation..you see a whole nother side of them when it comes to this stuff, but just keep in mind why your getting the videographer.. to video you marrying him.. so just keep your head up and breathe!! i went with classic video so sorry im no help

katnwill Posted: May 17, 2012 09:48 AM

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FH and I have disagreements about the wedding as well. He also feels like it is costing us a lot of money. I told him this is what I want and it only happens once. So I am willing to do what I have to do to pay for it. That's why I'm working 2 jobs and if I could work 3 I would. When he wants something I can't tell him anything because he feels that he works hard so he should be able to get what he wants. And the same thing goes for me if this is the wedding I want I plan on having it. Certain things he doesn't mind paying for and other things he feels like we don't need. I've definitely learned to pick and choose my battles. I don't talk too much about the wedding and I don't try to stress it. I let things flow. Thank God my mom is helping out(I'm the first one to get married; so she's super excited).

Definitely get different quotes and show him that you have done youir research if everything else is more expensive then maybe he'll agree to go with AJ. I don't have any cinematic quotes sorry I can't be much help.

MarryTheNight24 Posted: May 17, 2012 10:32 AM

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Have the two of you met with AJ yet? He might change his mind once you go meet with him. His prices aren't that bad. We ended up spending a little more than we wanted, but the final product is worth the money IMO.

Fanoula169 Posted: May 17, 2012 11:34 AM

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Thanks for all the info everyone, but i might still hurt him when i see him..i dont think its the fact that he is questioning me but the fact that he just started arguing with me without hearing my reasoning. We made very well with my parents paying for almost everything and all they said for the fh family to help out is limos, photo and video, and im not even holding them to it, whtever they are willing to pay is fine and i told fh i will pay for the rest. Another thing that blew my lid last night is that fh has no problem paying for car parts and things he wants but when it goes for the wedding he becomes a complete chepo and 'we should be saving for a house' well 'we' are saving but 'I' make double his salary so if i want to put money towards my wedding i will! And yea i guess i become all defensive with this wedding experience since i had no say from the start, but im learning if u want something just do it, and if people dont like it oh wells, i had to put up with it for 6 months so they can deal like i had to!

Fanoula169 Posted: May 17, 2012 11:40 AM

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Posted by MarryTheNight24

Have the two of you met with AJ yet? He might change his mind once you go meet with him. His prices aren't that bad. We ended up spending a little more than we wanted, but the final product is worth the money IMO.

I had a video confrence with him but no fh hasnt met him, but i know he would like him. Aj cant really meet with clients till august cus hes so swampped but i know i wanted him before cheeky even mentioned him and i found ouy someone else is intrested in my date so id rather give him a deposite before its to late

AnnaK26 Posted: May 17, 2012 03:56 PM

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my FH was the same way. At first, he didn't even think video and photo should cost more than $1K. He lost that fight but now we are fighting about the cost of the Rabbi. Unfortunately I am losing this one haha

as for video, I am booked with Fade To Black. I booked Gil on the spot. I really loved his work and the way he explained everything to us, plus his personality is really down to earth and fun! He is reasonably priced so I would def check him out!

LisaReyes Posted: May 17, 2012 06:34 PM

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Fiances! Sometimes, I feel like the stuff we think about ALL of the time never even crosses their minds. My videographer offers some different packages, I'll FM you a quick summary. Hopefully it will help you out with FH!