FURIOUS!!!

So one of the BM’s decided it would be a good idea to shave half of her head. I’m talking flock of seagulls shaved head. I asked her if she even considered the fact that she is in my wedding that is less then 6 months away and her response “I didn’t think the girls had any hair requirements.” I went fricking NUTS!!!! I told the girls they can wear their hair anyway they want since I know some of the girls’ hair doesn’t take a curl. I didn’t think it needed to explain to the girls that shaving their heads before the wedding is a no no.

How would you react? I’ve been flipping out for the last 3 days now. I’m so angry with her. And on top of it, we are going out this Friday to celebrate her engagement but I’m still so angry with her that I really don’t want to go. FFIL said I don’t have a right to be mad but everyone else is kinda agreeing with me on this one. FH wants her to walk with the boys… What do you think?

ok honestly...w t f? why did she shave her head? geez

but in the end, i guess it's not worth the stress. you can point and laugh at her.

i would be so pist off as well..i think you have every right and you should have a say due to its your wedding and your pictures...she obviously doesnt care about anyone but herself...at least you kept her in the wedding i would have kicked her out...but thats me i dont think anyone should be inconsiderate since you were kind enough to ask this person to have a special role in your wedding day...hope it gets better

I think it would have been considerate for her to mention it to you before she did it, but it's really her hair and her own self expression and to her your wedding is only one day.

I think you need to take a deep breath. You invited her because you love her for who she is, not for what her hair does or does not look like. You love her for who she is..which is the type of person who would shave her head!

I would NOT have her walk with the boys or do or say anything to embarass her. If it's really bothering you, maybe you could ask her to wear a wig on that day? Or if she could grow it out a bit for the wedding? I know the wig is expensive, and growing it out still might not make her look the way you want, but remember she's there to be by your side, not as a decoration.

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Posted by HSsweethearts

I think it would have been considerate for her to mention it to you before she did it, but it's really her hair and her own self expression and to her your wedding is only one day.

I think you need to take a deep breath. You invited her because you love her for who she is, not for what her hair does or does not look like. You love her for who she is..which is the type of person who would shave her head!

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This is what I think too. I understand being upset about it, but in the end its really not worth it to stress out over it. Whats done is done, just try to make the best of it!

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Posted by Chanwich

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Posted by HSsweethearts

I think it would have been considerate for her to mention it to you before she did it, but it's really her hair and her own self expression and to her your wedding is only one day.

I think you need to take a deep breath. You invited her because you love her for who she is, not for what her hair does or does not look like. You love her for who she is..which is the type of person who would shave her head!

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This is what I think too. I understand being upset about it, but in the end its really not worth it to stress out over it. Whats done is done, just try to make the best of it!

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This. I mean, it's nutso, in my opinion, but it's her head. Though it would have been nice if she gave you the heads up. Why did she do it, anyway?

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Posted by leesah85

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Posted by Chanwich

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Posted by HSsweethearts

I think it would have been considerate for her to mention it to you before she did it, but it's really her hair and her own self expression and to her your wedding is only one day.

I think you need to take a deep breath. You invited her because you love her for who she is, not for what her hair does or does not look like. You love her for who she is..which is the type of person who would shave her head!

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This is what I think too. I understand being upset about it, but in the end its really not worth it to stress out over it. Whats done is done, just try to make the best of it!

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ITA with this.

i'm sure one of my BMs will probably do the same thing. My FSIL just decided to get a tattoo on her chest that will be front and center when she walks down the aisle in my BP and FMIL decided she doesn't want to dye her hair anymore so she's like 1/2 gray and 1/2 blonde at the moment. at the end of the day, you love these people for who they are in your life and not for what they look like. yeah, would it have been nice for her to tell you she wanted to do this, sure, but it's really not her responsibility to do that - she can cut her hair however she wants.

one of my bridesmaids recently gained like 75 lbs (just because, not because of any health reason) and obviously she looks much better without the weight - but there is nothing i can do to change it.

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I agree here. As much as I might be annoyed about it, it's wrong to be truly mad at her. What if her hair was like that when you asked her?? It's her hair. It would have been nice to mention it to you or ask you if you minded. At this point, talk to her about her hair the day of...if she just got engaged, she will prob be growing it out anyways for her wedding day.

Vent it out, but don't let this change the reason why you asked her to be in you BP.

She said she was bored with her hair.

The reason I think I'm getting so angry is because this wasn't the first 'opps' thing she has done. She totally missed going with us for the BM dresses because she didn't know how to set the alarm on her new phone...new phone which happened to be the same as her old phone. Which we found out was a lie anyway since we saw he FB status 4:30 in the morning saying she was out. Then on top of it she blamed us for not calling her and only texting her to wake her up.

FH was annoyed I even put her in the wedding cause he's thought she was a sh*tty friend to begin with but I kept telling him he doesn't know her and doesn't have the right to say such a thing.

For the record, I wouldn't put her on the boys side. And I do love her for the person she is but she's never went this drastic.

I think I would be upset but as long as it doesn't look terrible I'd be ok with it. Maybe force feed her Biotin until her hair grows back

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Posted by Chelechel1

At least she has 6 months to grow it out and I agree with LindyBride, maybe she can wear a wig. How did she shave her head anyway? Mohawk? Clown Style?

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Do you remember Flock of Seagulls? Half side shaved and the rest pushed over to the side?? Like that.

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Posted by NikkiB0401

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Posted by Chelechel1

At least she has 6 months to grow it out and I agree with LindyBride, maybe she can wear a wig. How did she shave her head anyway? Mohawk? Clown Style?

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Do you remember Flock of Seagulls? Half side shaved and the rest pushed over to the side?? Like that.

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Oh! I guess she's copying Rhianna's do from 2 months ago?
It'll grow out don't worry!

i would be furious!!!!!!!!!!!
but you can't change it and its not worth stressing over. in the end, she is the one who will get made fun of

All i can do is give you a

We know I would flip out

Does anyone else find this kinda funny?

I totally see why your mad. I would be too, but it is her head. Why did she do it?

oh.my.god. i wouldnt even know how to react. tell her to get a wig!!!!!

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Posted by HSsweethearts
If it's really bothering you, maybe you could ask her to wear a wig on that day? I know the wig is expensive,

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ITA

WIG chica...

I understand u... I will be fraking out too... and I will have the same thoughts that u having...
I understand i choose her to b my Bm bc i love her, BUT Shaving HALF of her hair off?!!!!!!!!!.....