Future Brother in Law Trouble :(
So when my now fiancé and I (Gary) first started dating, he lived in a house with his brother Brian). His brother and I got along great in the beginning. We are close to the same age, we would hang out all the time waiting for my fiancé to get home from work and just have a good time laughing together.
But the more serious Gary and I got relationship wise, the less Brian seemed to like me. I almost thought he was jealous of what we had or he was sad I was cutting into their time. But whatever the reason, it was totally nothing I did to make him hate me.
It kept getting worse and worse. For example, when we were all together with his parents, anything I would say, Brian would come down on me and try to embarrass me. At his sisters sweet 16 party he really threw me over the edge by just being an a****** telling me I will never be part of the family and nobody cares what I think, etc.
If I had done something to him to get this reaction I would at least understand but I never did anything to him. Even after we got engaged, he never ever congratulated his brother, even though he was asked to be the best man! When Gary confronted him about his behavior to me, he swore he was just 'concerned' that we were rushing into marriage because we were getting older (I am only 27 and we have been dating for 2 years, living together for over a year). And I felt like that was such a BS answer because his attitude towards me starting way before we got engaged. And now he started getting serious with his girlfriend (moved in after only 5 months of dating) and you would think he would change his attitude but he is still a jerk to me. If Gary EVER treated Brian’s girlfriend the way Brian does to me, I would kill him! But Gary would never do that, he isn’t a jerk.
It hurts me because my fiancé is the one who is hurting. He is close with his brother and it is so immature and unnecessary the way he is acting. I get along with EVERYONE else, all his friends and family, nobody has ever had anything bad to say about me. I am good to Gary, I love him deeply and will never hurt him so shouldn't his brother respect that? I need help with what to do. If I ask to talk to him he probably will never answer me. I thought of showing up at his house to talk but that is a little physco. We are less than 2 months from the wedding and I just want to get back to how we were but I also feel like I really shouldn't be bothering with him since he is the one who all of a sudden hated me after I did nothing. This is really killing me...Help what do I do!!!!!!!!!
Sorry for the novel but I really need to fix this!![]()
But the more serious Gary and I got relationship wise, the less Brian seemed to like me. I almost thought he was jealous of what we had or he was sad I was cutting into their time. But whatever the reason, it was totally nothing I did to make him hate me.
It kept getting worse and worse. For example, when we were all together with his parents, anything I would say, Brian would come down on me and try to embarrass me. At his sisters sweet 16 party he really threw me over the edge by just being an a****** telling me I will never be part of the family and nobody cares what I think, etc.
If I had done something to him to get this reaction I would at least understand but I never did anything to him. Even after we got engaged, he never ever congratulated his brother, even though he was asked to be the best man! When Gary confronted him about his behavior to me, he swore he was just 'concerned' that we were rushing into marriage because we were getting older (I am only 27 and we have been dating for 2 years, living together for over a year). And I felt like that was such a BS answer because his attitude towards me starting way before we got engaged. And now he started getting serious with his girlfriend (moved in after only 5 months of dating) and you would think he would change his attitude but he is still a jerk to me. If Gary EVER treated Brian’s girlfriend the way Brian does to me, I would kill him! But Gary would never do that, he isn’t a jerk.
It hurts me because my fiancé is the one who is hurting. He is close with his brother and it is so immature and unnecessary the way he is acting. I get along with EVERYONE else, all his friends and family, nobody has ever had anything bad to say about me. I am good to Gary, I love him deeply and will never hurt him so shouldn't his brother respect that? I need help with what to do. If I ask to talk to him he probably will never answer me. I thought of showing up at his house to talk but that is a little physco. We are less than 2 months from the wedding and I just want to get back to how we were but I also feel like I really shouldn't be bothering with him since he is the one who all of a sudden hated me after I did nothing. This is really killing me...Help what do I do!!!!!!!!!
Sorry for the novel but I really need to fix this!
