future SIL

ok ladies i need some advice my fh's sister is in no way financially able to be part of the BP. she is in recovery and does not even have a job. im not sure if i should ask her to be in it or not! i just have a feeling that if i dont her feelings will be hurt or if i do ask her she will just say no cause we all know that being in someones bp can get very costly such as the dress, makeup, hair, shower, bach. party. and i also feel like if i dont ask her i will never hear the end of it from fml. im in a bind here and im trying to find a way for her to be part of the special day like maybe do a reading but she is very shy and im afraid she will say no to that as well or a brother sister dance im just not sure what to do im torn! sorryfor rambling on and i just am so confused

future SIL

I would ask your Fiance how he feels about the situation first and get his opinion. I would then bring up- if she cannot financially handle the cost, would your fiance or his mother be willing to contribute for her?
if you ask her and she says no, at least you asked!!! If she isn't going to be in the BP, I would maybe ask her to do a reading, maybe be an honorary bridesmaid? Like she can wear a dress that she wants and do her hair on her own and stand up there to support you and be made to feel special in someway

Re: future SIL

i think im gonna ask fh but i have a feeling he will tell me not to bother and i do know that we dont have it to help her out cost wise and he parents are funny like that so we arent sure. but thank you i will discuss it with him!