getting upset with bm's help!

I know im not on here much but i need some opinions. Most of my bm make excuses not to get there fittings they are not really involved at all. Sometimes i fell like they could care less and i would not do that to them. they think im wrong for being upset with them. Do any of you think im wrong?

I think you need to tell them when they HAVE to go for their fittings. Why don't you make a day out of it, go for fittings and then lunch? You have to remember that a wedding which is a fun and wonderful time for someone, is causing jealousy and envy in another. It's sad, but it's true. Don't worry, they will come around! I think you need to get them together and tell them how you feel!


Cheer up!

I had kind of the same experience. My maid of honor lived in Florida. My two friends were so consumed with their personal life and problems attached to that. It was dissapointing at times. It is sad to say, but like the last post said, sometimes there is envy feelings, etc. Hang in there. It is never as perfect as it seems!

I'm having similar problems because my girls requested that we get the dresses early to give them time to pay for it and spread out their expenses (and I might be moving to join my FH out of state when I graduate). Well I have been trying for 3 weeks to get them to pick ONE saturday to go in and try them on. There are 3 dresses that MOH and I liked and we wanted to pick the one that was most flattering since we couldn't decide.
The were vera wangs and they told me it takes about a month for a sat apt (since these girls work during the week) If they wait wait much longer I won't be able to go because it till be too close to my finals to take the time.

I had the same problem with one of my maids of honour.. she could have CARED LESS to do anything with me and pretty much didnt bother to even ask me any questions or see if i needed any help. She was my best friend since kindergarten so i didnt say anything to her. I just planned with my other maid of honour and tried to keep that stress at the back of my mind.. And then to boot, she showed up at my wedding with no gift, which i didnt really care to much about, but didnt even bother to give us a card.. that hurt!!!

keep in mind that our weddings are on our minds 24/7...while our BMs are happy for us...the wedding is not their priority...when I came to this conclusion it made things much better...

yes...they do have to go for fittings...but I definitely like the suggestion of making a day out of it...

sometimes people (especially people who have not been married) don't understand the hype of planning a wedding...thats why these forums are great...we can chat about weddings for hours without annoying our friends and family to the point that they want to kill us

I have the same problem, my MOH is being alittle weird. She's always making excuses and I feel she really doesn't want to be it. I feel I should of asked some one else.