my wedding is less than 6 months away and my moh still hasn't asked me for my shower guest list. should i just email it to her or give it to her in 2 weeks when we go dress shopping? or am i being silly? i spoke to one of bm's and shes like whats going on with ur shower and i'm like, i don't know why? and shes like well i haven't heard anything from MOH about it. so i gave my BM MOH's email and she emailed her and made sure to put my name in the subject and she said moh deleted it w/o reading it. should i worry?
vmystique33
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I wouldnt worry mine is 5 mnths away and my MOH hasnt asked for my list either she prob. wont need it for another 2mnths or so
AeroJenn
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Hmmm....to be honest, I'd be alittle concerned. She isnt suppose to wait til 3 months b4 the wedding to ask for your shower list because then it will be far too obvious when the shower is going to be. My MOH asked for my shower list over the summer (and my shower isnt until this March or April) and she started talking to my other BMs about planning months and months ago (at least clueing them in about when she planned on beginning the planning). Also, she shouldnt be keeping your other BMs in the dark. I would call her and talk to her.
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Hmmm....to be honest, I'd be alittle concerned. She isnt suppose to wait til 3 months b4 the wedding to ask for your shower list because then it will be far too obvious when the shower is going to be. My MOH asked for my shower list over the summer (and my shower isnt until this March or April) and she started talking to my other BMs about planning months and months ago (at least clueing them in about when she planned on beginning the planning). Also, she shouldnt be keeping your other BMs in the dark. I would call her and talk to her.
what do u say? i feel rude if i'm like so when's my shower? like all bride's know they're getting one, but i feel like its tacky to ask about it.
vmystique33
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What if you just make a list and give it to her ? Or your mom?I dont know the ettiquette on this
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What if you just make a list and give it to her ? Or your mom?I dont know the ettiquette on this
thanks for the advice. thats what i'm thinking of doing, just giving it to her in 2 weeks when we go for the dresses. i'm just surprised she hasn't asked for it, shes been so into the wedding planning thus far. she is FH's sister, so we talk, but only at family functions and if i call her about wedding stuff. what do u think about giving to FMIL? my mom isn't involved what so ever.
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Hmmm....to be honest, I'd be alittle concerned. She isnt suppose to wait til 3 months b4 the wedding to ask for your shower list because then it will be far too obvious when the shower is going to be. My MOH asked for my shower list over the summer (and my shower isnt until this March or April) and she started talking to my other BMs about planning months and months ago (at least clueing them in about when she planned on beginning the planning). Also, she shouldnt be keeping your other BMs in the dark. I would call her and talk to her.
what do u say? i feel rude if i'm like so when's my shower? like all bride's know they're getting one, but i feel like its tacky to ask about it.
My advice would be to first send her an email with your list of guests and just say something like 'since its getting a little closer to the wedding, I thought I'd send you my guest list for the shower that way you have it when you're ready to start planning' I'd wait a day and then call and ask if she got your email. Then you can casually bring up that you got a call from so-and-so and they tried getting in touch with her but couldnt and wanted to know if she'd started planning or if she needs help.
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is she friends with your friends? B/c i went through my fsils friends and called each one of them to get there addresses instead of asking her I just asked who she would like to be there and I took care of the rest!!
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Hmmm....to be honest, I'd be alittle concerned. She isnt suppose to wait til 3 months b4 the wedding to ask for your shower list because then it will be far too obvious when the shower is going to be. My MOH asked for my shower list over the summer (and my shower isnt until this March or April) and she started talking to my other BMs about planning months and months ago (at least clueing them in about when she planned on beginning the planning). Also, she shouldnt be keeping your other BMs in the dark. I would call her and talk to her.
what do u say? i feel rude if i'm like so when's my shower? like all bride's know they're getting one, but i feel like its tacky to ask about it.
My advice would be to first send her an email with your list of guests and just say something like 'since its getting a little closer to the wedding, I thought I'd send you my guest list for the shower that way you have it when you're ready to start planning' I'd wait a day and then call and ask if she got your email. Then you can casually bring up that you got a call from so-and-so and they tried getting in touch with her but couldnt and wanted to know if she'd started planning or if she needs help.
thats a great idea! i'm going to probably cut and paste everything u wrote too.
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is she friends with your friends? B/c i went through my fsils friends and called each one of them to get there addresses instead of asking her I just asked who she would like to be there and I took care of the rest!!
no shes not friends with my friends. i'm acutally all prepared! i have everyone's addresses already since i did save the dates. thanks for the advice!!
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in the email, do u think its ok to include the email addresses of the other girls in the BP? like i'll tell MOH heres the email addresses for the other girls in the BP, please do not hesitate to contact them.
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in the email, do u think its ok to include the email addresses of the other girls in the BP? like i'll tell MOH heres the email addresses for the other girls in the BP, please do not hesitate to contact them.
