gift for friends wedding in buffalo - please help

slickynic Posted: Apr 05, 2009 06:47 PM

gift for friends wedding in buffalo - please help

im going to a wedding in buffalo next week with my fiance. we are both on a pretty tight budget because we are paying for our own wedding this year. we are already spending money on flights and hotels.

what is an acceptable gift?

i would love to spend more than 250 on their wedding gift, but in all honesty we cant right now. im living off of loans and going to grad school, and my fiance is in college and gets a small paycheck. thats why i put 250 as the top price in the poll.

i know on LI and NYC wedding gifts are usually more generous than other parts. anyone know whats acceptable in buffalo?

SummerBride10 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 06:49 PM

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I think $200 would be an acceptable gift- 100 for you and 100 for FH.

20mrsc10 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 06:51 PM

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Posted by SummerBride10

I think $200 would be an acceptable gift- 100 for you and 100 for FH.

completely agree

mosh424 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 06:51 PM

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Posted by 20mrsc10

Posted by SummerBride10

I think $200 would be an acceptable gift- 100 for you and 100 for FH.

completely agree

I agree as well

marriedinmontauk Posted: Apr 05, 2009 07:07 PM

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In other parts of the country it is quite normal to give gifts as opposed to money. I think you would be fine with 150.

AngeeM Posted: Apr 05, 2009 07:34 PM

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i would say give 200, but its totally up to you.

JAAMS Posted: Apr 05, 2009 08:14 PM

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I think 200 is suitable.

historie86 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 08:16 PM

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You could always get something off their registry that would be slightly less than what you would have given them cash. It is a little more thoughtful and you won't break the bank.

siena Posted: Apr 05, 2009 08:35 PM

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honestly - i would not give more than 150
i went to school upstate and ive been to several weddings upstate
they do not even slightly compare to an okay wedding on long island
cocktail hour - cheese, crackers and shrimp (sometimes)
people do not pay 100 per person upstate,esp in buffalo
just my opinion

siena Posted: Apr 05, 2009 08:39 PM

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it also depends on how close you are to these people
but really weddings upstate aremuch cheaper than we pay down here
i just thinki 200 is too much

mandab Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:00 PM

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Where in Buffalo is it? I'm actually from Buffalo. For my friends' weddings there, $200-$250 is more than enough. They can get wedding plates for $30-$50 there. LI is definitely way more!! Have fun!!

Funny story...our friends got married a couple years ago in Utica. We put $250 in the envelope and our stoner friend (the groom) calls FH the next morning and says...'dude...I think some of your twenties stuck together...there was a lot of money in that envelope'....

misswitty Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:08 PM

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You can definitely give them something off their registry - maybe you can get it on sale??? Something nice off the registry has more meaning - it's a thoughtful gift - I know I'd appreciate it !

slickynic Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:20 PM

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we decided to get some things off their registry for about $150. we dont live new them so having it sent to their residence (which is actually south carolina, but her home town is buffalo). thanks for the input

MC127 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:33 PM

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Posted by mandab

Where in Buffalo is it? I'm actually from Buffalo. For my friends' weddings there, $200-$250 is more than enough. They can get wedding plates for $30-$50 there. LI is definitely way more!! Have fun!!

Funny story...our friends got married a couple years ago in Utica. We put $250 in the envelope and our stoner friend (the groom) calls FH the next morning and says...'dude...I think some of your twenties stuck together...there was a lot of money in that envelope'....

It's good to see people from Buffalo. For undergrad I went to Buffalo State.

Oh yea back to the question. Yeah def not over $200 for a gift.

debzy Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:47 PM

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I'd give $200 at the minimum. If that's all you can afford, that's fine.

Whatever you give, you'll most likely get back from them at your wedding anyway.

jch8 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 11:13 PM

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I also went to school upstate, and went to a wedding in Albany last year...and its SOO different.

Like other girls have said, the CH was just scallops passed around on trays, while sitting at a bar.

We gave $150 combined to his friend...and I have a feeling it was one of the more generous gifts. Not that you necessarily want to give a gift based off how much they spent on the wedding, but it is not the same as down here.

I think $150 is plenty.

JenBill61210 Posted: Apr 06, 2009 08:37 AM

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i would give $200

kirstenjk Posted: Apr 06, 2009 08:42 AM

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You could always give them a gift as opposed to money. Outside of the NYC/Tri-State area, it is very common to give an actual gift. Maybe pick something on the higher end of their registry like stemware or china.