Gift giving

Please dont think I mean this in a nasty way... but

IS it rude that after YEARS of giving VERY generous gifts for other peoples engagements, showers for weddings, and showers for babies, weddings, traveling and hotels too, and baby gifts, both newborn, and each year after...not one of our friends has given us an engagement gift? NOT ONE! We would have been quite happy with a card of congratulations...but we did not even get one of those from them!

Everytime someone had great news or an occasion, we RUSHED out to 'congratulate' or celebrate with these people....we were genuinely happy, and we wanted to show them! (and help them out)

Ps...we have been engaged for months and our wedding is slowly creeping up on us, so by now we are sure that it is just not happening.

Same here - we send cards and gifts to acknowledge every little thing for our friends and only my moh (the one who hasn't had any reason to be on the receiving end of our aforementioned cards and gifts) sent us a present for our engagement. FH's friends (we've been to all of their showers, weddings, children's births and birthday parties) didn't even send a card! I was very annoyed.

I know that it seems very selfish and nasty to say that I am annoyed, and I know that you dont give gifts to get gifts, but not even a single card.....not nice. You know that these people would have went bonkers if they had not received anything for their occasions!

I asked my friends not to buy us anything because they are single and struggling and the last thing they need to worry about is getting me something. This is also part of the reason that I did not want bridesmaids....I dont want them to spend money on a dress that they wont wear again. The wedding and the shower is expense enough. besides rent in NYC is out of control!