Gift if not going to wedding...

PauliesGirl Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:26 PM

Gift if not going to wedding...

I need some help... I know this is a matter of opinion but Fh and I are invited to a wedding out of town that we can't make...how much do you girls usually give if you don't go to the wedding..I've never not gone and we don't want to do the wrong thing...please help..Thanks in advance!!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:27 PM

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it really depends upon how close you are to the person..i'd say $75-100

PauliesGirl Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:29 PM

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It's a colleague of Fh's...not so friendly but work closely..

debismom Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:32 PM

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Posted by PauliesGirl

I need some help... I know this is a matter of opinion but Fh and I are invited to a wedding out of town that we can't make...how much do you girls usually give if you don't go to the wedding..I've never not gone and we don't want to do the wrong thing...please help..Thanks in advance!!

Nicole, I think it's great that you want to give a gift, even though you're not going!! I was raised to do this, that it's proper etiquette, but it's amazing that many do not do this anymore. Mary MOB

lizzie217 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:32 PM

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I couldnt make a coworkers wedding and I sent a place setting from their registry HTH

MKEA98 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:39 PM

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It really does depend on how close you are with the person. I'm thinking $100 would be more than enough if it's a co-worker.

Snowflake08 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:40 PM

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it depends how close you are with them as others have said
i either give half of what I would give if DH and I went or send a gift from registry

i got several nos and very few gifts although as Mary said, I was raised to do this as well

amazing how so many people DONT send anything and i was really surprised by who some of them were!!!

angl2001 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 08:46 PM

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depends on the person....very close friend of family.. maybe 100...not so close 50

shcole08 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 09:10 PM

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75-100 I just had a wedding i didnt go to and i just sent something about 75 dollars off the registry

FCsBride914 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 09:32 PM

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We were just recently invited to a wedding that was OOT and we couldn't go.. FH has known him for years so we sent $150... If it was someone me/him weren't really close with, I'd send at least $75.

Kricket212 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 09:49 PM

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I guess I failed ettiquette school. I will be honest & say I didn't send a gift to a wedding we didn't attend. It's on my fiance side but he said not to send anything. YIKES!! Is that a terrrible No No...The wedding was recently so I know I have time, but this is what he wants so...prob wont do it.

Wifeynella Posted: Jul 21, 2008 03:38 PM

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I'm a child of emily post and so we always do this. We tend to give as gift based on the relationship. Anywhere from 150-300.

RisiLeigh Posted: Jul 21, 2008 03:39 PM

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We've been getting $50 from our guests that can not attend our wedding. I would say $50-75 if you're not super close to these people.

PauliesGirl Posted: Jul 21, 2008 03:42 PM

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thank you so much girls!!

mendi725 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 03:54 PM

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I would say 100 would be more than enough!

GinaZ Posted: Jul 21, 2008 04:20 PM

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since it is out of town, they probably have a lot of things on their registry. You could send them something frm that.

I'd prolly spend between 50-75 dollars- but thats just me and my situation now.

GinaZ Posted: Jul 21, 2008 04:21 PM

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Posted by Kricket212

I guess I failed ettiquette school. I will be honest & say I didn't send a gift to a wedding we didn't attend. It's on my fiance side but he said not to send anything. YIKES!! Is that a terrrible No No...The wedding was recently so I know I have time, but this is what he wants so...prob wont do it.

you should at least send them a card. Or else they may take it as you didn't care... we have some people who didn't come to our wedding and didn't even give us a card, and truthfully it hurts.

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