GMB!!! QOTD 6/10

I noticed that I am a lot more sentimental then I thought I would ever be. I find myself getting teared up just thinking about our day sometimes, or hearing the bridal marhc, or thinking about seeing FH down the end of the aisle.

I am NOT a crier and I guess this just brings out the sap in me

that my mom is a nutso!!!

(but i think i kinda knew that before hand too...)

About myself:
I probably aim to please other people too much in the whole wedding planning process.

About others:
Sadly..except for his mother, my FH's whole family doesn't consider me family (after 7 years of dating) until that 'other' ring is on my finger.

That everyone has an opinion about what 'WE' have chosen!!! We are the ones that are paying
Our wedding is not as important & special to my FMIL as her first son's

In regards to me, I have become so naroctic on getting things done!!! I am so not like that Plus I am also more sentimental about things that people say & I get teary eyed when I think about seeing FH for the first time

About me:

#1 Im pretty damn good at organizing & planning this whole shindig!
#2 I aim to please others before myself

About others... (ha.. this is a great one )

#1 My day isnt important to everyone else as it is me & my FI (but I kind of knew that before)

Myself - I always said that I didn't really care about the wedding and was just looking forward to the marriage (and honeymoon). With all this planning I realize having a 'perfect' wedding is really important to me too!

Others - that jealousy can bring out a bad side of some of my friends who thought they would be the first to get married (I'm first in my friend circle).

That parents (especially IL) tend to get 'confused' about whose wedding it is (how else to explain the demands!)

Also that some friends will really work it to get into the bridal party

So many things..

How to mix my very open family with his very conservative family..

That you need to be direct when explaining what you want, because everyone has endless opinions, umm hello is it YOUR wedding??

That without FH help, you really can lose your mind...

That sometimes people you've never met before (LIW) understand you way better than people who've known you forever

The realization that at the end of this process, I spent almost two year's planning one day of my life.. but it will all be worth it


Oh i forgot to add, that my sister thinks all my 'sentimental' idea's are corny..all I can say is wait until you fall in love and this will all be yours too..lol

Friends- I thought many more of them would be much more excited for me... but I realize it is my day and why would they be

Family- That FH's family/friends are not as into it as my family/family friends- Some didnt ever say congratualtions

Me- That I really do want things perfect, yet nothing can be 'PERFECT'

Friends: That I have the BEST bridal party in the world, and they all have been so supportive and involved!

Family: that my mother is crazy, but thats nothing new. My dad has surprisingly been forthcoming with funds And both sides of our fams can't wait for the big day..

Me: I knew I could plan, but this has brought my talents to an all time high! I am quite proud of what I can juggle while going to grad school, working and helping to plan my friends wedding this august! If I hadn't already put so much into being a teacher, I definitely would go into wedding planning.. I love it

FH: That he wants to be involved in most everything, which I thought he would avoid helping with planning at all costs. He's gone to every appt (with the exception of the florist.. ) and he's obsessed with limos and a dj. But what boys ( ) arent?

Family: people can be jealous and truly don't think before they speak
Friends: excited
Me: I always thought I was anti-bride, but I'm not - I want this wedding and I want it to be amazing.

In general: I notice that single friends/family members, no matter what they've accomplished or how wonderful they are, feel a bit inadequate or left behind because they aren't married.

Great question

I have realized that I can handle just about anything as long as I have my FI. Planning a wedding and dealing with cancer are not easy things to juggle. I know that no matter what happens we will get through it and our wedding day will be amazing.

Others- some people just don't care about the wedding and this fine. Others really do. I am surprised at how many people have become very sentimental about our wedding day.

Well FH has been so much clammer since we got engaged - I know that doesnt have anything to do with planing but I did notice a change in him

My dad had been kinda funny - I think that my parents kinda thought I would live home forever

But thats really it -

I haven't really noticed anything about other people.

But a lot of people are surprised at me for being really good and not being a bridezilla!! I guess they thought I was gonna be really stressed and crazy all the time!!

Lol, kinda reminds me when I was student teaching and my friends thought I was gonna have a nervous breakdown. But I never did and I don't plan on it now either!!

That I am a perfectionist and controlling. I want no help from anyone because then I worry that it won't be perfect. And then I get upset at FH because he won't make a decision or offer to do anything on his own.

'I need to do it all, but why won't you help?'
Boy, do I need a shrink!

Also, that I don't like his mother's decorating taste. I got scared when I walked in and she was making a dog and fire hydrant out of flower pots all the while talking about the decorations at the reception.

Oh boy! No wonder I am controlling. I might end up with painted centerpieces if I wasn't.

about me I actually have it together and have gotten alot of things accomplished which amazes me I thought I would be very unorganized and have loose ends

about FMIL has to always have something to say negative about the wedding plans

Our Friends are so happy and excited

My family is very excited and can't wait

One of FSIL who is a BM is trying to take control of the BM dress which aint happening cuz I am going with MOH and 2 of the BM's and she aint one of them and we will pic out dresses.

great question....makes me think!

FH family- his sister and brother are happy and intersted, his mom- I am thinking not so much. it's really weird, but I feel like she is more upset about it than anything else

my family- for the most part very happy- interested, but also hands off- which I LOVE. however, I am having problems with some of the women- people I am very close to, yet they have problems with everything I am saying/doing. It has always been clear that I think and handle things differently than most of them- what is coming out now is how RESENTFUL they are of me..

me: I am actually surprised about how much I want this to be a combined effort- normally with planning, it's my way or the highway, but I am trying to include everyone. also, I am finding that I will really miss being single. I mean, I've been with fh for over 10 years, but now it's so much more- I'll be responsible to him in our life- a wonderful but frightening thing.

my baby- FH has been great. always interested (much more so than I EVER imagined) and coming up with ideas. he is really hellbent on making this our own- putting our personal stamp on the wedding and making it memorable. I just love him


Friends- can't forget about them.. I have a handful of really good friends. and they all are incredible. Thank God I found them.

Me: I kept telling myself that I wanted a simple wedding but as time goes by I want more and more different things. It feels like I have to please everyone else before FI and myself.
Family: My family is great!! FI's family I found out are liars. It makes me so mad!!!
They promised to give us money to help us and nothing!!! His father has been so mean.
Friends: They have been ok. Nothing bad with them at least not yet.