GOING TO KILL MIL----------LONG VENT

SHE IS DRIVING ME CRAZY.............................
SHE HAS SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT EVERYTHING. FIANCE'S AUNT WANTS TO KNOW IF WE THOUGHT ABOUT SHOWER DATE............SO OF COURSE HIS MOTHER HAD TO ASK
ME. ...HELLO, I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO KNOW ABOUT MY SHOWER. AND FURTHER MORE, THE WEDDING IS NOT FOR ANOTHER 8 MONTHS. THEN SHE COMMENTED WHEN MY MOM SAID SOMETIME IN FEBRUARY. SHE SAID IT MIGHT SNOW. WHEN I TOLD HER TO OPEN HER MOUTH, SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE WASN'T GETTING INVOLVED ...............

THEN WE ORDERED OUR WEDDING BANDS AND SHE COMMENTED BECAUSE I GOT 2 BANDS. ONE TO MATCH MY SETTING AND A PLAIN ONE TO MATCH MY FIANCE'S RING. HER COMMENT ' WHY DO YOU NEED 2 RINGS. CAN'T YOU WAIT TILL AN ANNIVERSARY.'

AND SHE HAD SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT MY BRIDESMAID DRESSES. HER DAUGHTER WHO IS IN MY WEDDING LIVES OUT OF STATE AND IS COMING IN FOR A LONG WEEKEND. WELL MIL SAID HER DAUGHTER MAY NOT HAVE TIME TO GET MEASURED. I WANT TO KILL THEM ALL. HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO GET MEASURED. SHE SUGGESTED THAT MAYBE HER DAUGHTER (FUTURE SIL) CAN GET THE DRESS ELSEWHERE. THE WHOLE POINT OF ORDERING TOGETHER IS SO THAT THE COLOR MATCHES.

OH GOD...................................I CAN'T TAKE ANYMORE OF THIS. I DON'T EVEN WANT TO DO THIS ANYMORE. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH BUT MAY HAVE TO KILL HIS FAMILY.

SORRY SO LONG................................NEEDED TO GET OFF CHEST.

Hi dear, I sympathize whole heartedly, and I say kill em! Ok, maybe not, but ignore them the best that you can. By the way, do a little search for my posts about MY FMIL. That might make you feel better!

I agree 100% with bizzybridesmom!! Have your FSIL send you measurements to get the dresses ordered and don't tell your FMIL anything else.

Good luck

thank you all for your advice. My fiance's advice is to ignore his mother.......................Pretty hard to do. But you guys are right. I just won't share anything with her. She feels the need to always tell me what she thinks.
Thanks again!

I say not to tell her any more information and have the FSIL send her measurements also!
If it gets worse - have your FH talk to her....it's his mother after all!
And, I just wanted to say that you are getting married the day after me!

Definitely say as little as possible...only whats necessary. I have been getting comments regarding the dj, a bridesmaid I picked, about the bridesmaids dresses, the drive out to the island, what if it snows,about the photographers coming to the houses......and I still have 7 months to go!!

My word of advice...when you see her kill her with kindness and remember its your day

You can join me & princessrachel in the 'I AM SHIPPING MY MIL OFF TO CHINA' club.

I'll give an idea a bride past onto me-
You can use this one w/ any person who is full of ideas (or complaints) you DON'T want to hear.

I would always say 'thanks for the tip' ,'that's a great idea', 'I never thought of that', or ' I'll think about that'.

I would never use any of the advice, but it made them think I was. It's easier than fighting a topic or trying to ignore someone. Keep in mind this is your FH's mom and her feelings are important to him. You can never keep or make everyone happy!

Good luck, keep smiling, it gets better!

Tell your FSIL to have her measurements taken at a seamstress...then send them to you...try and not go through MIL at all. I am so sorry for your stress.

When she makes comments...as hard as it is...ignore them. As much as her opinions hurt, she has no control over what you and your FH decide is right for you both. Whether it is one wedding band or three. Your happiness is what matters.

Good Luck!

Unfortunately not much advice here, just wanted to let you know you are NOT alone!!!!! My FMIL drives me ABSOLUTELY NUTS MOST of the time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh Boy!! You have your handsfull. I am so sorry that you have a wicked FMIL!!!

I agree with the above advice, share as little info as possible, smile and say 'thanks for the great idea', and drink heavily before family get togethers
Good luck!

1. If she's not hosting the shower, she has no say in the shower. Whenever she asks, simply say 'I have nothing to do with that', end of story.

2. You call your FSIL and tell her that she can go to any bridal store in her area and ask them to measure her properly. She can call in her measurements to YOU and you can order her dress (though you'll most likely have to front the deposit), but at least you know it's done.

3. You wedding bands are none of her business. Simply ignore her, or say well I want two.

There's always someone with an opinion, best way to deal with it is to ignore her. Once she sees she doesn't get a reaction from you, she won't bother anymore.

Sounds like my MIL!!!! She makes me so mad. Everything I like she doesnt or i am doing everything wrong! I cant win so I ignore her know when she comments on anything.
Karissa

Don't tell her or share any information with her. That is the only way you will avoid wanting to kill her. If she asks anything about the shower just tell her I have nothing to do with it and I want it to be a surprise so I rather not talk about it. As far as everything else, if she asks, just say we haven't looked into that yet.

Thank you all again. I'm going to try to say as little as possible. The problem is that there are 2 FSIL that i'd like to kill. One who can't make time to be measured and the other who is competing with everytihng we do. She was married last summer and is holding off to get pregnant until after our wedding, but wants to race us.
WHATEVER. I definelty learned with her just to keep my mouth shut.


Thanks again. MY LIFE SUCKS.

Lots of hugs girl