One of my best friends died on the 29th of Jan last year and I feel so guilty. Not once did I go to his grave since his funeral...so I decided today I would go.
Should I call any of my friends to go? I really dont want to get them upset. Everyone's pretty sad right now and I dont want to make the situation worse.
Im a Pepper
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One of my best friends died on the 29th of Jan last year and I feel so guilty. Not once did I go to his grave since his funeral...so I decided today I would go.
Should I call any of my friends to go? I really dont want to get them upset. Everyone's pretty sad right now and I dont want to make the situation worse.
aww! i think the last feeling you should have is guilt. everyone gets over these things in their own way and it's wonderful that you are going to his graveside now. i think you could call your friends and tell them that you're going. if they are comfortable enough to go then they'll say they want to come. even though they're sad, they may want to pay their respects and doing so might actually make them feel better!
DonnaPWhite1124
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I was going to call his GF. Shes one of my BMs-but she's not good right now and I dont want to ruin her day.
Im a Pepper
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Well if you do call her, I know that you guys will support each other and keep each other strong. I can't even imagine how hard it is to lose a friend!
kabo0831
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i think you shoudl call her, that would be a nice day with you and you BM out to see a great frd that has passed
KristiAnn923
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My brother passed away this July in a motorcycle accident. I have only been to the cemetary once in over 6 months. It's hard. I think about him everyday, so I don't feel as if I have to go there to see him or think of him.
Don't feel guilty. Everyone handles this differently. And you shouldn't feel bad calling on your friends. These things are hard and are sometimes easier to deal with in groups.
longislandlibrarian
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im so sorry for all of your losses... all are in my prayers ladies!
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To be honest with you, do not feel bad that you have not visited the cemetary. When my grandfather passed, i basically lost my father, and knowing he is there doesnt make me feel okay with the situation of him being gone. To me, thats a shell, and he is with me at all times..
cemetaries are hard to handle, so i would at least ask a friend if u really want to go. But as long as you talk to him, and pray to him, he knows you care :)
