FH's groomsmen texted him the other week saying that he can't afford to be in the wedding but will still be coming. I understand that it takes a lot but when you've known about it for over a year it gets a little irritating. Anyway FH has been trying to get in touch with him to explain that he can make payments towards the tux each week, he even was willing to give him a free tux (men's warehouse gives you one free that FH was using). He hasn't returned any of his phone calls or texts.
What do we do? Drop him?
karebear1
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I am glad that I am not the only person going thru this! Today was the final day for all of our groomsmen to get their suits. One of the groomsmen has been stalling and ignoring fh calls. Finally fh got in touch with him on Sunday. The groomsmen said he was having phone trouble and he was going to get his suit today. My fh received a text from the groomsmen this morning saying that he can't be in the wedding party! He gave all these bs excuses and I understand but our wedding is in like 40 days. We already have his gift. The bridal party was uneven bc I was short a girl and I added one in to even it out and now look. I feel so bad for fh. He was so sad and upset. I would just drop him...
Jsabbatino
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I think you have to try and reach out but if he is insistent on dropping - just let him. I know it is definitely frustrating because he has known for so long but you don't want him to flake totally last minute or be in it half-heartily because he cant afford it
I think it was very nice of your FH to offer his free tux!
JaimeLin
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Ugh I didn't even think of that! We got his gift already too!
Kimberley2015
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I would definitely try to reach out to him before deciding not to have him as a groomsmen. You don't want it to be so close to the day of and then he back out.
ladygoodman
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Drop him. Sounds like there's more to the story and honestly at this point there's no time for bs.
karebear1
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Posted by JaimeLin
Ugh I didn't even think of that! We got his gift already too!
Yeah, we decided to give the gift to his dad. My FH also offered to pay for his suit/give him his (we went to mens warehouse too!) and my FH kept calling him to remind him that the final day was coming up (since june he has been reminding him!) and he flaked out last minute! I would def. drop him before anything else happens...
killerqueen
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I'd say drop him. He seems to want to leave the wedding party, whether it really is the money problem or he's using it as an excuse for something else, you'll just be adding frustration by insisting he keep it up. He might even just drop out closer to the wedding as well. It's sad, but easier for all to just let him back out.
