Do your parents have more friends on the guest list than you and FH? In total, our parents have about 60 family friends on the list. FH and I have about 30 total friends. In trying to keep the guest count low, it's making it rough!!!
I have asked my parents to review their friends list, making sure they would have to be friends with these people in seven months. I was afraid they were inviting them to be nice and then in January they wont come
after watching my sister go crazy about her guest list vs our parents/her then hub's parents' lists, i told my mom to give me a set list of any non-family members she would want. It worked out very well, because it was only about 6-8 people, and when she randomly remembered 2 people she didn't count, I was fine with it because numbers were so low. I think it's all in how you prep for it - if they know in advance it's a big deal to keep it to people you and FH know, then people respect that. otherwise, people write off your hurt feelings as just being a 'bridezilla' which is so annoyingggg
Unfortunately for me, my parents don't understand how important it is to keep the numbers down. They know that the fire marshall won't allow more than 250 people in our venue, yet they insist on adding more people than they are allotted. and family members that are so far off in relation that they don't even know who i am!
I asked all of our parents and my mom is only asking for 3 seats for her friends. They probably won't even come. I'm surprised that no one wants to invite their friends or bosses. Oh well...more room for our friends! LOL
Luckily Fhs parents and my parents didnt really have any requests for friends to come. FH and I actually were the ones to say 'Hey what about so and so...' Its still a very small number and since we are paying for it ourselves I would draw the line regardless because its OUR wedding not theirs....
