Just wondering how people are handling this and all of FIL's guests. Are you letting them invite who ever they want or are you setting a limit??
My parents are inviting 3 couples, all of whom are close friends of theirs. FIL's have about 10 couples, maybe more whom they are inviting. I just think this is a little unfair. Any thoughts?
Moonmist09
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who will be paying for these guests? are each set of parents paying for their guests or are you? If you and FH will be paying then its up to you. If you have it in your budget to allow these people to come, then let them. IMO, just because one family has more or less guests shouldn't be a problem. I have no family here in the US so literally, the entire wedding will be 100% FH family and some of our friends.
BlushandBashful
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We are letting them invite whoever they want. My FIL's list is shorter then my parents for now.
FutureMrsTlasek
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Mostly FH and I will be paying with help from my parents. FH's parents are all about sticking to traditions...which has been really annoying me lately but this is a totally different story. This bothers me not only because we are paying for this but because we are over our limit. FH wont say anything because his parents are inviting friends who will give us big monetary gifts....last time I checked though this wasn't about money!
evita2781
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we wanted to limit both our parents guest lists but they offered to pay for their guests. But after a long talk with FH, we've decided that we're going to cover them as well.
mollygurl24
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The only people that are doing the inviting will be fh and I. Neither of our parents will have a list of invitees because FH and footing the bill our selves.
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Posted by BlushandBashful
We are letting them invite whoever they want. My FIL's list is shorter then my parents for now.
Same here.
ETA: We told them we'd like the list to be 'reasonable' because we're paying for the whole wedding ourselves. We have about 30 friends we're inviting and so each side can have like 75 people.
My parents’ list right now is at 115, but about 20 of those are definite “no’s” – FILs have about 85 on their list and most of them are OOT so I’m not too worried unless they ALL decide to come!
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FMIL is making us invite 4 of her friends and their husbands. I don't think we should have to considering my parents aren't having any friends bc they don't want us to have to pay more money since we are paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves. But fmil is very selfish and doesn't care. If anything, my parents are the only ones contributing, so they would be allowed to be the ones to bring friends.
Sorry, this is a very sore subject for me as you can see lol
Yankeeelove
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Posted by mollygurl24
The only people that are doing the inviting will be fh and I. Neither of our parents will have a list of invitees because FH and footing the bill our selves.
This is exactly how I feel, but then fh says to let her have her friends, bc my family is a lot bigger than his, blah blah. She always gets away with everything!!
