I have been BEGGING FH's parents for their guest list for I don't know how long. Every time I ask, they give me a date that they'll have it ready by and then that date passes and I still don't have their list. I don't know what to do anymore! FH says he'll talk to them, but I doubt -- if he even remembers to do so -- that that will work.
I'm willing to do ALL the work...all I've asked for is their stupid list. What do I do?
kmkelly
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Ask every day. They'll get sick of hearing it.
R&J0806
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Yeah, I've been asking 1-2 times per week. I just sent them another email (last time I was told the list would be ready on Thursday...hello Monday!) I think I'm going to bump it up to daily.
soon2bcopswife
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I had the same problem. I got fed up and bluffed, told them the invites are getting printed tomorrow. I said 'I guess you don't have any people to give me, right?' They jumped!
JanuaryBride06
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Tell FH to tell them that with or without their guest info, envelopes are going to the calligrapher on x date. No more waiting. And stick to it.
PrincessRose
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My Dad did our calligraphy, and one night he called and said he was starting the invites. We drove over to ILs house and said 'So yeah, Dad's doing the invitations NOW so we need addresses NOW.' They kinda jumped, but they gave me wrong addresses and got mad at me for people not being invited.
They're lovely people.
October Bliss
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At this point I would stop asking. I would tell them: 'FMIL, FFIL, I have been very patient, however there is no more time to wait. I will be ordering invitations on X date. If you have not given me your complete guest list by then, I will be forced to exclude all your guests because I am not paying for extra invitations, or reprinting later on.'
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Posted by October Bliss
At this point I would stop asking. I would tell them: 'FMIL, FFIL, I have been very patient, however there is no more time to wait. I will be ordering invitations on X date. If you have not given me your complete guest list by then, I will be forced to exclude all your guests because I am not paying for extra invitations, or reprinting later on.'
yup i agree. stop letting them give YOU a date--and you give THEM one. sometimes ppl just don't understand and you have to be a little stern with them.
cjb88
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my mom gave me a problem with address too... i told her if i didnt have them by a certain date her friends werent invited... she never gave them to me, so her friends were never invited!
FallBride05
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No guest list = no invitations
mskittynj
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I would ask everyday until they get sick of hearing it. Make sure you call at the same time everyday too!!! lolol XOXOXO Kitty
VadersBride2006
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Posted by soon2bcopswife
I had the same problem. I got fed up and bluffed, told them the invites are getting printed tomorrow. I said 'I guess you don't have any people to give me, right?' They jumped!
What a great idea!!! I gave my FMIL the list and told her she has a month to fill in the addresses for her side. She left the list at my house... !
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Posted by kmkelly
Ask every day. They'll get sick of hearing it.
i agree - become a thorn in their side until they give it to you.
TheBigDay
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I had this issue.. Fh and me asked for 3/4 months i finally had it and told his mom she was being completely inconsiderate, selfish and rude (this is her normaly everyday behavior).. she would always be too busy with her leisure trips, reading stupid untrue (hoax) email fwd;s then fwd them to me... i am like if you have time to read that crap you can put a list together for 15 mins... that is all it took me and my mom! addresses and all, in a spread sheet!
i feel your pain!
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I am going through the same thing and although my wedding is not until Feb it would be nice to get things when I ask for them. We have asked several times and nothing....... So not only is she giving us a hard time, my mother has asked her 3 times for the list for my shower and still nothing.... Gotta love it
You have to just ask every chance you get and maybe one day sooner then later it will get done.
soontobemrsRG
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welcome to my world! i just got it this weekend after asking FORVER--i wanted to send out the save the dates! finally i told FI to ask his mom or i was calling the whole damn thig off!
i understand how you feel--
R&J0806
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Yeah....my save the dates didn't even go out on time because of them. In fact, if it wasn't for the fact that they were special and different (quote from my mom about how she hopes I marry FH -- mom passed away) then they wouldn't have gone out at all. In the end, save the dates went out to my friends & family only.
