Just a tiny vent... we are having a small wedding (under 80, which we actually HAVE to stick to because the room we want only holds 75-80 max) and the guest list was actually pretty easy to create. But I am getting the feeling that FMIL wants to invite many more friends. FH is going over to talk to her today and find out what is going on, and if need be to have her rank her friends. Our list right now is at about 90, and even though most of those people would come (easy to predict because everyone is family or a close friend) we expect to wind up right around 75-80 because certain elderly people may not be able to come, a random friend or two might be unable to come for work or for their own family conflict, etc. I just don't want any DRAMA!
FutureMrsLehmann
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don't worry, it'll work out. if your room only holds 80 people your FMIL has to understand that it's not possible to invite anymore people.
michesq
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yes she will have to understand that the room only holds so many. also though take into account 15% or so will not attend- just a standard number if that helps
mf2009
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Don't stress yourself sweetie. FIL needs to understand that this is YOUR wedding and that you needto be strivt with your guest list especially if you are not going to have enough room. FH needs to put his foot down and speak to his mom about this so this does not escalate. Speaking from someone who has a guest list almost 3times the size of yours. I've been thru the back and forth and at the end of the day I realized this day is for me and FH and plus we are paying for a lot of the wedding so we are no going to invite random ppl cause they are friends and then suffer the consequences later. Better to deal with the issues now then later.Trust me! good luck!!
PoppedInASnap
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thats why when the time comes... were doing a destination!
PP424
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Don't worry. You are actually in a good position because all you have to say to FMIL is you hall only can hold 75-80 people, and you already went over that, so you can't add anymore people to the list. She should be able to understand. I'm sure it'll all work out.
I still have to make my list and I'm afraid, waiting till we book our hall, so I know what the price is pp.
Good luck!!!
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Posted by FutureMrsLehmann
don't worry, it'll work out. if your room only holds 80 people your FMIL has to understand that it's not possible to invite anymore people.
I agree. No need to have too much drama when you are not physically able to invite more people.
There is so much drama with the guest list, I feel your pain!
KristiAnn923
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Try not to stress it. I know it's hard but if the room only holds 80 people than you just can have more than that.
Hope it works out
MaggieLuvsJoe
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I think if FH lets her know that you're already inviting more than the room can hold then she should be able to understand that it won't be possible to invite all her friends....
hope everything works out
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I agree she'll have to understand since the room is so small. I hope everything works out. Guest lists are so annoying!
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Youd probably be safe to invite 100 and end up with 80...Everything will work out ! It is good that FH is going to speak to your FMIL though...
