Is anyone involved in the guest list for their shower? I am trying to help out my MOH and Mom by giving them a list -- but should i consult with FMIL with whom she wants invited.
Personally i would like for it to be kept small and i would not include guests that have never met me. But i wonder if i give a list without consulting FMIL that might be bad if there was someone she wanted that was left out?
What exactly is the etiquette here? If the brides side is throwing it do they have to consult with the grooms family?
If every woman on the guest list is ivited thats over 100 people. I think thats crazy - especially since i have a very very small bridal party.
Thanks girls
Mici n KC
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You should ask her about relatives, but it should be any of her friends that will be coming. Just tell her you want to make sure you got all of her relatives on the list.
teenigrrl
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when FMIL gave us her list for the wedding, she told me who should also be invited to the shower. pretty much all these women invite each other to their children's wedding and showers. i've met most of them a couple of times, and even with her list, the total of women at the shower will still be no more than 30. by no means should you have to invite every woman coming to your wedding. if her list is way too long, you should discuss with her who can be cut. this is your shower after all, not hers.
minibride08
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I sent my MOH a list too... I invited all of my CLOSE family (and then a few that my grandparents said I had to invite- LOL), all of my friends, all of FH close family and some of his girl friends / girlfriends/ wifes of friends). Total invite list was somewhere around 50-60 I think.
Espo22
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YES i think that his side of the family should be invited too, if you do a shower just for your family then they will feel like you are leaving them out and might resent it and that you are separating yourself from his side of the family and the point of the whole thing is the coming together of you two which include your families...if it was the other way around i know i would be very upset if my family wasn't included
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it's going to be the same people on FMIL's side that we invited to the e-party for the shower... it's really just family - her sisters and FH's other aunts. So yeah I would definitely make sure your mom or MOH consults her but I would think she wouldn't invite any friends.
my FMIL might have a few friends coming to the wedding but not the shower. And by a few I mean like 3-4
Wedding999
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Posted by Espo22
YES i think that his side of the family should be invited too, if you do a shower just for your family then they will feel like you are leaving them out and might resent it and that you are separating yourself from his side of the family and the point of the whole thing is the coming together of you two which include your families...if it was the other way around i know i would be very upset if my family wasn't included
oh i definately meant for his family to be invited - but i was thinking of just choosing the names of the list myself. There are some friends of theirs on the list i never met - and some out of town family that i wouldnt include on the shower list. But i guess i should defiantely go over that with her first just to make sure. I just worry she'll want every female invited.
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Posted by Cindyrella
Posted by Espo22
YES i think that his side of the family should be invited too, if you do a shower just for your family then they will feel like you are leaving them out and might resent it and that you are separating yourself from his side of the family and the point of the whole thing is the coming together of you two which include your families...if it was the other way around i know i would be very upset if my family wasn't included
oh i definately meant for his family to be invited - but i was thinking of just choosing the names of the list myself. There are some friends of theirs on the list i never met - and some out of town family that i wouldnt include on the shower list. But i guess i should defiantely go over that with her first just to make sure. I just worry she'll want every female invited.
well tell her your keeping it small so to stick to close family. Say not even your mom is inviting all her friends
