Guest List Issue - long post!
LONG POST …. sorry
Ok FH and I both come from hugee familys and have lots of good family friends, its like you invite one you invite all…Currently my guest list # is 300, and its definitely not going to exceed. FMIL and I agreed to a designated number of guests they can bring, and it all worked out perfectly.
But the real issue is at hand is WHO their inviting. Long before FH and I got together or got engaged he went out with this girl on and off who was crazy about him, I know her well too, because she lives around in the neighborhood. She was obsessive over {FH} any girl that talked to him, she was rude and nasty to. Well that girl lets call her “X” just so I have a name to use. Well X’s whole freaking family is friends with my FMIL. In addition my Future sister in law is MARRIED to X’s FIRST cousin. After I got engaged to my FH, X started lots of drama, was rude to me, tried to take my friends away, spread rumors…all this childish behavior, even caused fights between me and FH. FH has not spoken to her or seen her for a while now…nor does he want to. But occasionally X’s mom stops by at their house and X’s mom is always interacting with my Future Sis in law, since theyre now related. I DO NOT want to invite X, nor her family. She has a big family. And my inlaws want to invite them, and want to invite them because it will “look bad” because their daughter is married in to their family and they are family friends too… otherwise they’ll make rude remarks or be offended. Argh
I can see someone inviting their ex gf IF all 3 people are friends, but in this case I HATE her, she always tried to make my life miserable… I don’t want to see her family or HER on my wedding day. And my inlaws insist they come. They wont even right Mr&Mrs. They want to write Mr&Mrs. ---- and family. [which means shes included]. My FH says she want show up, but I think she will , just to spite me because she is a total B*tch. Im not willing to take that chance, and FH parents are putting pressure on me…that it wont matter its my big day, FH loves me so on and so forth…I tried talking to them….but its no hope, I will talk to them again… but this always ends up as a fight….
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Ok FH and I both come from hugee familys and have lots of good family friends, its like you invite one you invite all…Currently my guest list # is 300, and its definitely not going to exceed. FMIL and I agreed to a designated number of guests they can bring, and it all worked out perfectly.
But the real issue is at hand is WHO their inviting. Long before FH and I got together or got engaged he went out with this girl on and off who was crazy about him, I know her well too, because she lives around in the neighborhood. She was obsessive over {FH} any girl that talked to him, she was rude and nasty to. Well that girl lets call her “X” just so I have a name to use. Well X’s whole freaking family is friends with my FMIL. In addition my Future sister in law is MARRIED to X’s FIRST cousin. After I got engaged to my FH, X started lots of drama, was rude to me, tried to take my friends away, spread rumors…all this childish behavior, even caused fights between me and FH. FH has not spoken to her or seen her for a while now…nor does he want to. But occasionally X’s mom stops by at their house and X’s mom is always interacting with my Future Sis in law, since theyre now related. I DO NOT want to invite X, nor her family. She has a big family. And my inlaws want to invite them, and want to invite them because it will “look bad” because their daughter is married in to their family and they are family friends too… otherwise they’ll make rude remarks or be offended. Argh
I can see someone inviting their ex gf IF all 3 people are friends, but in this case I HATE her, she always tried to make my life miserable… I don’t want to see her family or HER on my wedding day. And my inlaws insist they come. They wont even right Mr&Mrs. They want to write Mr&Mrs. ---- and family. [which means shes included]. My FH says she want show up, but I think she will , just to spite me because she is a total B*tch. Im not willing to take that chance, and FH parents are putting pressure on me…that it wont matter its my big day, FH loves me so on and so forth…I tried talking to them….but its no hope, I will talk to them again… but this always ends up as a fight….
