Why does family have to be soooooo confusing?!?! I asked my mom to make a guest list and also my future mother in law to make one. My dad is helping out with the wedding costs but he isnt into planning at all. So when he heard my mom wants to invite 71 people, he flipped. I asked my mom to cut off 10 people. Well the guests on my side now equal 30!!! And my mother in law has 57 people and I am NOT asking her to cut any off. Its a very reasonable number of people. I swear... why cant we just elope??? I am constantly on the verge of tears. This is supposed to be a happy thing, right? And I have to sit here at work and put on a fake happy face and a fake happy voice and it is driving me nuts! My fiance works nights so he has to sleep in the daytime so I cant even call him to cry or vent or anything. How am I supposed to go to a reception hall and say 'Ummmm I dont know how many guests I have.'
Ok I think I am done venting for now!
Thanks for listening.
palebride
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the guest list is the worst part of the whole wedding you can never please anybody with it....
brideinapril
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All you need is a ball park number for the reception hall, they don't need to know the final count until a few weeks before.
Lorena
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The thought of making a final guest list makes me cringe. Since you only need an estimate now can you ask your Dad what his ideas were as to the reception budget? That way maybe you can back into a list and tell your mom she can invite X amount of people and your FMIL she can invite X amount of people and so on.
Good luck. Don't get overwhelmed - you are right it should be fun.
butterfly20
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guest lists are very frustrating.. it seems every bride has too many people, or too little people..
Ok if they just need a ball park figure, what is that? Within 25 people? less? I dont know anything!!! And can they give you a price if you dont know exactly how many people?
nsgraham
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Yup, you can be 25 people off with the hall- don't worry about it! let them know that you're thinking 125 - 150, it should be fine. They'll give you a price. And about 10 -20% off the people on the list will probably decline anyway. Your invite list is not, in the end, your final list. Just breathe, it will all be fine. I have almost the exact same ratio, and my room only holds 125. we have 153 on the list.
brideinapril
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All I did was give them a number, I think I said about 120 people. My family is so small but my fh has a big family, I did that way back in July. My number right now is about 100, so I'm pretty close. When I mail out my invitations and get them back, I will call my hall and give them the exact number.
Oh and just relax, take a deep breath, everything will be alright!!
nferrandi
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When you start looking for halls tell them you are going to be around 100 people. Also, since your dad is going to help financially, find out exactly what he's willing to spend. He may want to pay for the reception so you may have to keep it under a certain $$ per person, or he may give you an amount and you can put it towards whatever you want. Worry about your budget before you worry about the guest list.
