Guest list panic

lwny427 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 11:44 AM

Guest list panic

So our guest list somehow spiraled out of control and got up to 371 people. The major issue is that our room holds a max of 350. FH and I weren't counted in the 371, so that brings us to 373.

So far, out of the 46 reply cards that we got back, only 3 have been no's. I am really starting to panic that we are not going to go below our maximum capacity! It seems like EVERYONE wants to come, which in many ways is wonderful, but in this one very practical way is making me freak out.

chrispar Posted: Feb 16, 2008 11:46 AM

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Don't freak out. You have so many responses to come back still. Don't panic just yet

lwny427 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 11:48 AM

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Posted by chrispar

Don't freak out. You have so many responses to come back still. Don't panic just yet

The thing is, aside from the ones that we have received, we have heard through the grapevine of a ton more people that ARE coming and haven't really heard any at all that ARE NOT.

SCARY!!!!! I don't believe in the 20% rule anymore!!!!

Randilotus Posted: Feb 16, 2008 11:48 AM

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You be ok, don't stress yet, give it a little time!

bemyyoko Posted: Feb 16, 2008 11:59 AM

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i am having the same issue!
our room only holds so many...we invited more than that, and we only got back 1 no so far. we still have time so i'm not totally panicing yet, but it is scary!

lwny427 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:01 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

i am having the same issue!
our room only holds so many...we invited more than that, and we only got back 1 no so far. we still have time so i'm not totally panicing yet, but it is scary!

Now, we can commiserate over this problem. I feel your pain!

madseason Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:05 PM

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me too!!!

ROom holds 230, 250 invited!

You are still early in receiving rsvps....So my fingers are crossed!

bemyyoko Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:06 PM

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Posted by lwny427

Posted by bemyyoko

i am having the same issue!
our room only holds so many...we invited more than that, and we only got back 1 no so far. we still have time so i'm not totally panicing yet, but it is scary!

Now, we can commiserate over this problem. I feel your pain!

If it helps at all, i've been told that usually the people who are a definite send their RSVPs back right away. People who say 'No' tend to send them later on. I'm not sure if that's b/c they are trying to come, or trying to find a reason to tell you why the aren't coming or whatever, but most people who i spoke to about their weddings all said the same thing.

plus, a family friend who is like a brother to me, told my bro and my dad verbally that he can't come. I'm sure he knows how upset I'll be about that... He hasn't told me nor has he sent back his RSVP yet. I think he doesn't want to be the first 'No' ...
you know what i mean?
Stop being so darn popular!!

madseason Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:07 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

Posted by lwny427

Posted by bemyyoko

i am having the same issue!
our room only holds so many...we invited more than that, and we only got back 1 no so far. we still have time so i'm not totally panicing yet, but it is scary!

Now, we can commiserate over this problem. I feel your pain!

If it helps at all, i've been told that usually the people who are a definite send their RSVPs back right away. People who say 'No' tend to send them later on. I'm not sure if that's b/c they are trying to come, or trying to find a reason to tell you why the aren't coming or whatever, but most people who i spoke to about their weddings all said the same thing.

plus, a family friend who is like a brother to me, told my bro and my dad verbally that he can't come. I'm sure he knows how upset I'll be about that... He hasn't told me nor has he sent back his RSVP yet. I think he doesn't want to be the first 'No' ...
you know what i mean?
Stop being so darn popular!!

thats true....they usually go back and forth for a bit and then just say no....ive done that (not with weddings) so take a deep breath...

if it helps...the 3 of us can get together for a drink!

lwny427 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:08 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

Posted by lwny427

Posted by bemyyoko

i am having the same issue!
our room only holds so many...we invited more than that, and we only got back 1 no so far. we still have time so i'm not totally panicing yet, but it is scary!

Now, we can commiserate over this problem. I feel your pain!

If it helps at all, i've been told that usually the people who are a definite send their RSVPs back right away. People who say 'No' tend to send them later on. I'm not sure if that's b/c they are trying to come, or trying to find a reason to tell you why the aren't coming or whatever, but most people who i spoke to about their weddings all said the same thing.

plus, a family friend who is like a brother to me, told my bro and my dad verbally that he can't come. I'm sure he knows how upset I'll be about that... He hasn't told me nor has he sent back his RSVP yet. I think he doesn't want to be the first 'No' ...
you know what i mean?
Stop being so darn popular!!

haha...this is what I keep saying to FH...why does everyone have to like us so much? ugghhh.

lwny427 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:09 PM

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Posted by madseason

Posted by bemyyoko

Posted by lwny427

Posted by bemyyoko

i am having the same issue!
our room only holds so many...we invited more than that, and we only got back 1 no so far. we still have time so i'm not totally panicing yet, but it is scary!

Now, we can commiserate over this problem. I feel your pain!

If it helps at all, i've been told that usually the people who are a definite send their RSVPs back right away. People who say 'No' tend to send them later on. I'm not sure if that's b/c they are trying to come, or trying to find a reason to tell you why the aren't coming or whatever, but most people who i spoke to about their weddings all said the same thing.

plus, a family friend who is like a brother to me, told my bro and my dad verbally that he can't come. I'm sure he knows how upset I'll be about that... He hasn't told me nor has he sent back his RSVP yet. I think he doesn't want to be the first 'No' ...
you know what i mean?
Stop being so darn popular!!

thats true....they usually go back and forth for a bit and then just say no....ive done that (not with weddings) so take a deep breath...

if it helps...the 3 of us can get together for a drink!

I think getting together for a drink always helps.

mRm2008 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:26 PM

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Don't panic yet It may all work out in the end. Give RH a call and see if there is anything they can possibly do to accomodate seating for over 350.

bluegreen08 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 12:33 PM

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this makes me nervous too. We're inviting a lot of people (not more than the max but still a lot) and i'm anticipating a lot of NOs, particularly from OOTers, which we have a lot of. Still, you never know!

boky17 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 01:07 PM

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me too! our room hols 200 comfortably, 220 MAX, and we invited 235. PLUS, we invited some people without guests and we are getting rsvp's with people ADDING guests. starting to panic that everyone and THEN SOME are coming!

lwny427 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 01:11 PM

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Posted by boky17

me too! our room hols 200 comfortably, 220 MAX, and we invited 235. PLUS, we invited some people without guests and we are getting rsvp's with people ADDING guests. starting to panic that everyone and THEN SOME are coming!

So frustrating! My cousin from Nevada, I did not invite with guest, but she is bringing someone with her from NV to NY. She is my first cousin and I can't make this guy sit in a hotel room while she is at the wedding. UGH! No one else has pulled that so far.

When we booked our room, our guest list was only 300 so we had no worries. Now we have alot of worry!