I am freaking out right now. We cut the list down to 217 (From about 230). I cut a lot of the '& guest's off of my side. I talked to my dad this afternoon and he said I HAVE to cut it down. (he is paying for the RH). Here's the issue. FH has cut his list about 12 times already. He refuses to cut off his '& guest's at all. I tried to instill a -age 21 and over with significant other will have '& guest'. That didn't work. My parents have about 30 of their own friends on there, but I can't say anything because they're paying! I want to get it down to at least 200 because then I figue I will have some declines and I should be safe. I hope. I figue my parents will pay for up to 175-180. My sister had 160 at her wedding last year. This is really getting to be so much of a headache I just can't take it- I'm so upset.
Princess Cut Bride
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I'm sorry you have to cut some of your guests. I know it's hard. Maybe you will get more declines and can allow some people to bring guests.
Hope things get better! Here are some
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oh jen im sorry i know how that is.. our list was well over 200 and i cut it down to 190.. we had to.. it was really hard at first, you dont want to hurt feelings or anything but.. i would sit down with the boy and say look.. this is the deal... if you want all the & guests.. then you need to come up with the $$$, say my parents will only pay for so much. i don think they are being unfair.
Our rule was if they have a SO that we know they are invited.. if not... sorry but no &guest cuz some people take that as.. bring a first date to a wedding cuz they were invited with one... sometimes you just need to put down some guide lines!!
good luck! try not to stress!!
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We had to cut our list down too....FH at first did not want to cut any of the & guests, or any of his cousins (he really wanted all 40 of them to be invited) but then when I broke down and said my parents put their feet down and we had to cut more people and I didn't have anyone to cut (which I didn't) he said don't worry about it and talked to his mom and together they cut about 20 ppl (& guests and cousins)....so maybe if you tell your FH how much heartache you're having over it he will bend on the &guests....
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Posted by soon2bmrsconnolly
I am freaking out right now. We cut the list down to 217 (From about 230). I cut a lot of the '& guest's off of my side. I talked to my dad this afternoon and he said I HAVE to cut it down. (he is paying for the RH). Here's the issue. FH has cut his list about 12 times already. He refuses to cut off his '& guest's at all. I tried to instill a -age 21 and over with significant other will have '& guest'. That didn't work. My parents have about 30 of their own friends on there, but I can't say anything because they're paying! I want to get it down to at least 200 because then I figue I will have some declines and I should be safe. I hope. I figue my parents will pay for up to 175-180. My sister had 160 at her wedding last year. This is really getting to be so much of a headache I just can't take it- I'm so upset.
Don't stress, these things have a way of working themselves out......but have you ever thought about you and FH paying for the extra guests? Is that possible in your situation..
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can you work it out that they pay for X ammount and you guys pay for anything over that?
soon2bmrsconnolly
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As of right now we are paying for everything else-
DJ Flowers BP Gifts My dress My shoes/accessories Favors Photographer Limos
...we just don't have the money for 50 extra people.
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WARNING - I KNOW YOU CAN'T REALLY DO THIS, BUT I THOUGHT I'D SHARE....
I have a friend from an old job who actually did this and even though it sounds awful, he got his list down big time. How? Unmarried=No guest. I know we can't all do that, but I was amazed. His reasoning? He didn't want any random faces in his photos. Person who just brings a buddy so they don't have to go alone, etc. Ha ha!
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I think you really need to talk to your Fh and explain that since your parents are paying he needs to get rid of his &guests. Honestly, that seems to be the only way you're going to cut down your list.
soon2bmrsconnolly
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I have tried to tell him. He just doesn't seem to get it
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Posted by Annoulak
I think you really need to talk to your Fh and explain that since your parents are paying he needs to get rid of his &guests. Honestly, that seems to be the only way you're going to cut down your list.
I agree and tell him you'll be compromising because it's people over age 21 that can bring a guest.
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i needed to cut down my list too so we decided to not to put &guest.. if we dont know them their not invited.... everyone one of my friends get the idea because i told them we are very limited with seats..
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I have tried to tell him. He just doesn't seem to get it
Then perhaps it's time for your parents to put their foot down and tell your FH point blank that they are not willing to pay for the extra & guest people. He better have a damn good excuse at that point if he can't pony up the money to cover those people.
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Keep some guests on a 'standby' list... whenever you get a no, send an invite to the next person on the standby list. It may seem tacky to do this but at least that way you can still invite some of the people you really want to invite.
soon2bmrsconnolly
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Posted by Annoulak
Posted by soon2bmrsconnolly
I have tried to tell him. He just doesn't seem to get it
Then perhaps it's time for your parents to put their foot down and tell your FH point blank that they are not willing to pay for the extra & guest people. He better have a damn good excuse at that point if he can't pony up the money to cover those people.
