guest list woes

After visiting the swan club last week , we spoke with the banquet manager about the camelot room. He said that no more then 170 people should be in the room if we have a band.


I was very upset because we were never told this before that night.

Our guest list is at 191 and we have already cut it SIGNIFICANTLY down to basically our core friends who we all know are coming.

In order to make me comfortable I think the guest list shud come down by 10 people.
We broke each side down and it turns out FMIL has ALOT more people on the list then everyone else ( and she added 4 more people last month)



I spoke to FH that he needs to tell her to drop some of her friends to the wedding considering we have had to cut the majority of our friends for OUR wedding not my FMILs.




He spoke to her the last two days and she just says that people will not come. I dont get it , why is she being so selfish?
FH is upset by the situation and is uncomfortable telling her that she NEEDS TO.

AM i wrong for asking him to do it? Should I try to write her an email and explain?




thanks ladies

it's only fair that she cut some off her list if you and fh had to do. And believe me, some people that I put on the invite list that FMIL and FH said wouldn't come rsvped YES!

We have the room so it was more of a pleasant surp[rise for them but if I was hoping for no's I'd been pis sed

eta; tell her they will go straight to the top of the b list. basically LIE

Its a tough situation
IMO - if you are inviting that many it should be ok bc you assume 20% say no
what number did you guarantee?

If FMIL is not contributing then you can be stern and tell her to cut xx amount of people. if she is paying i say you have to deal with it and hope you get the 20% no's

thanks ladies


i showed this to FH so he didnt think I was being crazy


he says hell talk to her


**cross fingers***

i *really* don't think all 191 will come.

I wouldn't sweat it, to be honest. Can she B-list a few people?

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Posted by HSsweethearts

i *really* don't think all 191 will come.

I wouldn't sweat it, to be honest. Can she B-list a few people?

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THIS

you're not going to have 170 guest when inviting 191.

it will be less.