guest list woes.....help (long)

Today my fh emailed his grandpa for addresses of the OOT guest that live by him in Missouri. Well the email came back with the family we asked for plus 7 of thier friends that they want invited. We are paying for most of this ourselves and we don't even know these people. We told his dad and my mom who are contributing financialy to invite a few people each and they did. We didn't ask his mom to invite anyone because she is kind of well..mentally ill and has no friends. (sorry to be blunt but she wouldn't have anyone to invite) These grandparents are his mom's parents. Should we just included these extra people as his mom's guest list, ask his mother to invite people and if any match the grandparents invite list.. invite them, Tell his grandparents they cant invite them, or suck it up and pay almost 800 for these extra people?

FYI; Fh doesn't think they will come bc they are old and wants to send a courtesy invite but I think that if they weren't going to show that his grandma would have said that.... FH assumes /thinks a lot and he is ALWAYS wrong.

girls I hate to pester but i really need advice.... I left them a message to call me back and I stil have not decided what to do when they call me.

I would send them the invites. Most likely, they won't come, and if your FH has any sort of relationship with his grandparents, this may cause a war that would strain that relationship. If you can swing it, I say invite them. If, as your FH says, they are older, most likely they won't come. Cross your fingers.

i would bite the bullet and invite them. in most cases, they will end up paying for themselves anyway (hopefully), and its not worth the headache... there will be enough other headaches along the way. with planning, you definately have to choose your battles, but i dont think this should be one of them. you should just think of it as friends his mom wouldve invited if she had them.. it all kind of evens out!

good luck with the situation