I am trying to keep my wedding at 100 people because I am paying for it myself. I have family coming out of no where that I havent seen in years asking for invitations and assuming theyre invited. I planned on inviting those close to me. If I had the money everyone would be able to attend, but its just not in my budget and I feel that if these people haven't been in my life for so long why all of a sudden should they attend? How do you kindly let people know theyre not invited??
VCanizalez
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Just let them know u are having a Small cremony only for ur close family bc u are on a budget....
How do they know about the weddingy thou? Did u told them?
AwaitingAugust
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we didn't say anything ... we just had them figure it out when they didn't receive an invitation.
unfortunately, it's almost definite that somebody will be upset ... don't let it get to you
Tricia1230
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one of my cousins sent out an email on facebook planning a reunion the same time of my wedding so i replied back and told her and apparently a few univited guests saw it
CroatianBride
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You gotta do what's best for you and FH and what fits in your budget. If you tell them right off the bat that you're keeping it small, they shouldn't expect an invite. I know a few people that have done this.
Tricia1230
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Thanks awaitingaugust i was kind of thinking the same thing because im pretty sure after the wedding I wouldnt hear from them anyway
VCanizalez
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
we didn't say anything ... we just had them figure it out when they didn't receive an invitation.
unfortunately, it's almost definite that somebody will be upset ... don't let it get to you
Im doing the same thing
Tricia1230
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Thanks guys im feeling more relaxed with my decision! Love this board!
chliekm
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don't worry about it.. when they see its more the immediate family being invited then they will totally understand that you want to keep it small!!
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
we didn't say anything ... we just had them figure it out when they didn't receive an invitation.
unfortunately, it's almost definite that somebody will be upset ... don't let it get to you
This!!!!!!!!!!
Thar1127
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you have to do what you feel comfortable doing, you dont owe people an explanation
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Posted by Tricia1230
I am trying to keep my wedding at 100 people because I am paying for it myself. I have family coming out of no where that I havent seen in years asking for invitations and assuming theyre invited. I planned on inviting those close to me. If I had the money everyone would be able to attend, but its just not in my budget and I feel that if these people haven't been in my life for so long why all of a sudden should they attend? How do you kindly let people know theyre not invited??
We are having the EXACT same kinda issues.
cleokizzy
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we told ours that we reached are cap...
kdm822
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its kind of rude of them to assume there invited. I wouldnt worry about it.. Just send invites to whoever you planned on .. maybe your parents can explain it to them
anjelagain
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just say youre having a small wedding and cant invite. they will totally understand :P Youre prob gonna get this a lot, word will get out dont worry
ourwedding9510
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We had this happen as well. We had a large wedding but still had family friends and family telling us 'can't wait to party' or 'can I be invited to your wedding'!?!? I simply told them 'we are on a small budget and we both come from large families so it's just those that we see regularly. Sorry.' Some people understood and some people got p*ssed but honestly, we weren't that close anyway (otherwise they'd be invited) so them being mad, didn't really affect me in any way.
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
we didn't say anything ... we just had them figure it out when they didn't receive an invitation.
unfortunately, it's almost definite that somebody will be upset ... don't let it get to you
