I feel like this wedding planning will never happen....I can't save no matter how hard I try! Every two weeks, the paycheck comes, the bills go out, and I'm BROKE!!! I'm constantly stressing about money, and to top it off, he's b*tching at me about spending $70 on groceries!!! WHAT am I supposed to do? Not eat? Never buy a pair of sneakers when I need it??? I just don't know anymore... Just needed to vent!
Christys0925
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I'm sorry. I think we have all been there at some point !! It WILL get better !
HotAir
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I worry a lot about paying for the wedding since it will be only FH and I paying for it. That's why I'm getting married in '09. Even with that I still feel like I can never save enough.
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it's ok, i'm gettin the 'ok we need $$$$$$ for this $$$$$ for that, blah, blah' i understand your stress. its good to vent besides these girls are wonderful listeners. I HOPE it gets better for both of us.
DananTodd
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To make matters worse, he surprised me with a trip to Mexico, and now I think he's regretting it, which makes me feel like a loser for not making enough money.
HotAir
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That's so funny...I was debating treating my FH to a trip to Mexico for his birthday and I'm regretting thinking (and telling him) about it!
MattandTricia07
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It is really difficult to save money when planning a wedding and living on LI...something a co-worker told me to do is for me and my FH to save $25 a week. So a total of $50 bucks. Doesn't seem like much, but it adds up. We did it for a year and we had a good amount of money saved. Now I am not working as much (in grad school) and we are so happy we did that. Good luck.
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Oh honey I think it happens to us all! -offers LI-net-hug- FH is basically the only one working right now-He wnated it that way so i could finish my certification and get out of school faster so we could have a life, so i quit my job. We've been mostly ok because his salary at his current job is only a little less than what we would make together when I start working again and he changes jobs to soemthign with more stable hours. But its HARD! Even now that his parents are giving us money for the wedding, and us DIYing ALOT, its still expensive. I feel like a guilty child anytime I buy something wedding related. He tries not to say anything because I honestly have cut corners everywhere I can think of, but its still very hard. I feel guilty then snap at him. he is tense and snaps at me. AWFUL!
I am sure it will calm down with us after the wedding as I am sure it will with you guys as well. Just hang in there!
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chatxleau24
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sigh .... gotta love thecost of living on long island.
DananTodd
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Even Worse...we live in Westchester!!
emcheung
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come up with a reasonable budget for your wedding. and i mean reasonable. don't splurge just because it's your wedding. if you can't afford that $3000 dress, then don't get it. then assess how much you can conceivably save without eating ramen noodles every day of the week. a budget wedding is possible if you set your mind and wallet to it.
What has helped me is the money we received from the Eparty. We took 85% of the money and put it in a CD account. We could of used it for the RH now but why should I give them the money when I can collect interest off it. I think about the money part all the time but I can't get myself sick over it. If it comes down to the tail end of it and we need it I will take out a loan I don't want to dip into our house money. We are doing this ourselves and thank god we still live home so we save at least $1,000 a month towards the wedding. Well I at least save my share, he saves for the home, we fight about that.
Autumn08
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A loan for one day!
Everything you spend on the wedding and finance will end up costing you so much more in the long run. You can't think of it in terms of monthly payments but actual dollar amounts.
And why put money into an account to earn interest if you are taking out a loan that is going to charge more interest?
It's one day.
That interest you spend on the loan can go towards a couch or painting the apartment/house or renovating for your dream kitchen etc... things that you will enjoy everyday for a long time.
