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So 3 down 4 to go. No I'm keeping the 4 but I had to ask 3 to not be in my wedding. It was hard but you can't start sh!t and not expect me to find out. Nasty e-mails and arguments with the rest of the BP........But anyway Do I give them money for their dresses? And the said part is they are my 3 oldest friends which I would never dream they would do this. Everyone I have asked said HELL no. But Just thought I'd ask all of you.
did you acutally tell them you didnt want them in it or was it more of a mutual agreement ... i just had 2 BM drop out on me becuase I asked them to stop complaining ... they fortunatley didnt by thier dresses yet ... but if they had and they dropped out on thier own i would not have not at all offered to give them money ... i am (well was) in the wedding of one of the BM that dropped out of mine and i chose to no longer be in hers either and unforutnatley we already bought our dresses ... so i am not asking for my money back for it and simply because i chose not to be in it any more ... also were did you get the dress ... the one i no longer need was bought at Davids bridal so i at least get a credit for the dress ... so i am totally not out all the money ...
No it is not required to give money for the dresses. BM should realize if they can not afford to be in it they need to say that up front. I had a BM back out on me for other reasons but I predicted that a long time ago before I even met my FH. Someone who I am even closer to offered to be in it and I could not be happier. I was not even planning to replace the BM. Just remember it is our day not theirs! So do not let BM stress us out!
My opinion is gonna depend on what they did, but if it was bad enough to be thrown out, then I say no. You have to do something reall, really bad to be asked to leave a BP and if they did then they should learn their lesson by having to eat the price of the dress. Are your relationships with these girls dissolved? Because if you think your friendship willl survive the money issue, it most likely won't GL
Posted by danibrwneyes
No it is not required to give money for the dresses. BM should realize if they can not afford to be in it they need to say that up front. Just remember it is our day not theirs! So do not let BM stress us out!
Posted by diva7531
My opinion is gonna depend on what they did, but if it was bad enough to be thrown out, then I say no. You have to do something reall, really bad to be asked to leave a BP and if they did then they should learn their lesson by having to eat the price of the dress. Are your relationships with these girls dissolved? Because if you think your friendship willl survive the money issue, it most likely won't GL
Posted by shelbygirl
It was kind of a conspiracy. From day one you know if you can't afford it I'll understand etc.....So they complained blah blah blah. Then my sister told them she was going to pay for 1/2 of the shower no thank u ar that's nice of u. They still bitched and mouned my other BM's were like *** And my sister got the brunt of everything She suggested they should back out if it was going to be a problem. They didn't like that soo much so nasty calls and emails. Mean while my sis is the quietest person you'll ever meet so I had to get involved. They feared me and I kind of liked it so I had to lay the smack down!!!! 1 you don't fu#k with my family. and 2 don't try to get the rest of the BM into your miserable box!! And to boot one of the BM was my COPYCAT. So I don't think I'm gonna be in her wedding. I'll just eat the dress or exchange for a cute one for my shower.![]()
Posted by diva7531
Posted by shelbygirl
It was kind of a conspiracy. From day one you know if you can't afford it I'll understand etc.....So they complained blah blah blah. Then my sister told them she was going to pay for 1/2 of the shower no thank u ar that's nice of u. They still bitched and mouned my other BM's were like *** And my sister got the brunt of everything She suggested they should back out if it was going to be a problem. They didn't like that soo much so nasty calls and emails. Mean while my sis is the quietest person you'll ever meet so I had to get involved. They feared me and I kind of liked it so I had to lay the smack down!!!! 1 you don't fu#k with my family. and 2 don't try to get the rest of the BM into your miserable box!! And to boot one of the BM was my COPYCAT. So I don't think I'm gonna be in her wedding. I'll just eat the dress or exchange for a cute one for my shower.![]()
Sounds like you did the right thing!
yikes!
I kicked out ym MOH but it was before she bought her dress. Replaced her with my closest friend now (originally I didnt ask her because she is getting married 3 weeks after me and I didnt wnat to make money an issue for her) and I am soooo happy I did cause that other witcjh would have made me miserable! Let them eat the price of the dress. LOL I am in crab mood today!
I would try to sell their dresses and give them their money back if they paid already...If not then you have no obligations to them..only to get them out of your hair/life for good! That way, they can't come back and say that you still owe them...blah blah blah...
Posted by PrincessJen
Posted by diva7531
Posted by shelbygirl
It was kind of a conspiracy. From day one you know if you can't afford it I'll understand etc.....So they complained blah blah blah. Then my sister told them she was going to pay for 1/2 of the shower no thank u ar that's nice of u. They still bitched and mouned my other BM's were like *** And my sister got the brunt of everything She suggested they should back out if it was going to be a problem. They didn't like that soo much so nasty calls and emails. Mean while my sis is the quietest person you'll ever meet so I had to get involved. They feared me and I kind of liked it so I had to lay the smack down!!!! 1 you don't fu#k with my family. and 2 don't try to get the rest of the BM into your miserable box!! And to boot one of the BM was my COPYCAT. So I don't think I'm gonna be in her wedding. I'll just eat the dress or exchange for a cute one for my shower.![]()
Sounds like you did the right thing!
I agree!
