My MOH and I are in each other's wedding parties and we agreed not to give each other monetary wedding gifts since we're both spending money on being in the bridal party, paying for the bachelorette festivities, the bridal shower, etc. And what's the point of giving her a gift that she's just going to give back in a few months anyway?
I haven't done this with friends who I haven't been involved in the bridal party - I've always given them gifts.
I recently shared this idea with my FSIL, who is in my wedding, and my FH is in her bridal party and she thinks it's ridic and doesn't make sense. So we probably won't go through with that arrangement with her, but I was wondering...
with all of the crazy costs associated with being in a wedding and planning a wedding, has anyone else done anything like this?
halfbaked
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We did this for the wedding we attended in April. DH was a GM for the April wedding and the Groom from April was a GM in our wedding. We just didn't give each other wedding gifts and called it even. ETA: Of course we got them a card though.
AngnShaun
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We did it for friends that got married in May. We gave them a card with a bunch of scratchoffs and they did the same for us...
Soon2BNavi
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yes actually one of my friends that is in my wedding party is getting married two weeks after me and I am in her wedding. She and I decided not to give each other money for the wedding since she would just end up giving it right back two weeks later.
Normally I probably would have just written a check but she said let's just skip it so this is what I am doing in this case.
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FH and I wanted to do this with his friends because there are three of us getting married in three months. July 4th, us August 20th, and his other friend September 11th. We felt silly handing the same money back nad forth but we never did it because the idea was shot down.
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I made friends with a few girls on this site and we went to their weddings and they went to our's. We agreed not to give gifts because we would just end up giving it right back to them.
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Yes, we would definitely still give them a card!
I'm glad to see I'm not alone on this idea I guess we can't do it if she doesn't agree to it, but I definitely think it makes sense.
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My good friend and I did not exchange gifts. Our weddings were only 20 days apart. I knew whatever she got me we would just give back to her - it didn't make sense to exchange.
I much more valued that she was a part of my day, and vice versa.
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No, we've never done this.
regy_k
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not sure whats so ridiculous about this makes more sense IMO than giving gifts back and forth
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ummmm i guess it makes more sense if you were in her bp?
since its fh and not you, maybe she thinks he will be spending less $?
i mean the idea makes total sense and i agree with you 100%, i'm just trying to figure out why she doesnt agree
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ummmm i guess it makes more sense if you were in her bp?
since its fh and not you, maybe she thinks he will be spending less $?
i mean the idea makes total sense and i agree with you 100%, i'm just trying to figure out why she doesnt agree
I think that's her logic - she's spending more to be in my BP, and her brother isn't spending as much to be in hers?
Do we give her a gift to 'make up the difference?'
Now I have a feeling no matter what we do she's not going to give us a gift
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Actually, I made this agreement with a few other LIW girls who we all are going to each other's weddings.
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i did this with one of my BMs that got married - and we both had to travel for eachothers wedding. it made sense
but for another BM who just got married, we just did cash. she is in grad school now and had to travel up for my wedding. i am working and didnt have to travel for her wedding, so i gave her a little bit $ more.
