fh and i are fighting. i gave him the ring back and my promise ring and said this obviously doesnt mean anything to you. he didnt want to talk about it. i said 'if u leave right now, its over' and he said 'we'll talk about it later' and left.
i hate fighting. im just in such a f'd up place emotionally right now
ughh
little34
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I hate when you feel like that... it is the worst...but it will pass. It seems like men need to walk away and then when they are ready they will talk about the fight...which isnt fair because I know I want to deal with things immediately. Maybe it is best to let things cool off and talk about the fight after you had some time to think..... hang in there!! We have all been there before...and probably will be again!
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Yeah...I hate it too...actually the fact that he didn't answer when you said 'its over' means that he wants to work it out, but needed to cool off in order to not say things that he'll regret later...just give him time....Space is good for you too...I don't think you really wanted to give him the rings and break it off but thats what women do (myself included) when they drive us crazy....It will all work out in the end....some more hugs for you
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Posted by little34
I hate when you feel like that... it is the worst...but it will pass. It seems like men need to walk away and then when they are ready they will talk about the fight...which isnt fair because I know I want to deal with things immediately. Maybe it is best to let things cool off and talk about the fight after you had some time to think..... hang in there!! We have all been there before...and probably will be again!
it just ***** we've never really fought before. and i hate the feeling. :(
FutureMrsC
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its a terrible feeling and its probably the only thing you can think of right now but you will work it out.
marilyne23
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i totally agree with little. Its best to just cool off and then when you are both calm, sit and talk about the issues that got you both arguing. You guys will work it out.
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I agree about calming down too. We always think guys are a**holes for leaving during a fight but think about how much worse the fight could have gotten if you kept going back and forth. Cool off, take a walk, a nap, a bubblebath... something to help you relax and then think logically about your next steps. Everything is going to be alright.
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Posted by lookitscassie
[ it just ***** we've never really fought before. and i hate the feeling. :(
I know...we rarely fight too...but sometimes we both get in a funk and it seems like we are fighting constantly...i think when you are in the midst of fighting it just consumes you.... I really think that guys just need to walk away for a bit. FH and I have fights about the way we fight because I think it is unfair that he always gets to end the fight the way he wants to. I ask him to not walk away and deal with it the way I want to deal it sometimes.. he tries but men are just so different from us.
DonnaPWhite1124
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it'll pass. trust me ive been there done that and bought the tshirt.
DonnaPWhite1124
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Not to sound like the negative one here, but honestly our wedding was the cause of many late night fights and sleepovers at parents houses...
But if you can pull through all the stress and let the fight gel out a little bit you'll be ok-i promise
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Fighting absolutely ***** - but a little space always helps and then taking the time to both speak calmly about whats bothering you and then taking the time to really listen to the other person. Things will get better, I've been there myself fights happen but then you make up.
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I hate fighting also, but it happens. And things will work out for the best. Just take some time off. I hate to say that Steve and I are on a no fight streak, 4 days and not a fight it is freaking weird I forgot what it's like being in a relationship where there is no fighting.
