Have you ever.. (courtesy of z100)

Original post by AdriandSteve

Oct 16, 2009 10:50 AM

Have you ever spied on FH?

I do have to say that I have looked at FH's phone numerous time w/o him knowing. 99% of the time b/c i'm bored lol. Only 1% b/c I was curious who he was talking to. He's never given me a reason to question his honesty or anything.... i just let my curiousity get the best out of me.

MikesBride2B Posted: Oct 16, 2009 11:26 AM

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I trust FH 150%....that being said I am NOOOOOOOOSY so I definitely look at his stuff haha.

I don't think he cares, he knows I have half his passwords.

iquel Posted: Oct 16, 2009 11:35 AM

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I trust FH but I am veryyyy nosy so I kind of check through all his stuff. But I do it to everyone He knows I do it and he doesnt care. FH always tells me that I should have been the detective and he the Social Worker

Rosie0613 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 11:38 AM

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I've only looked at his calendar once, never his texts or phone calls. It was around the time that we were talking about getting married and I was getting impatient b/c I didn't think he was ever going to propose. And I found an entry where he wrote 'Pick up ring'. He proposed two weeks later

kat2010 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 04:31 PM

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never had a reason to spy!

halfbaked Posted: Oct 16, 2009 04:34 PM

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When we first started dating he had broken up with his g/f who was doing a semester abroad in Ireland. I worked very close to his apt. so he'd leave the key and I could just head over to his place. Well, one time there were a few folded letters sitting on his bed. I was curious so I opened them and they were love letters from the ex that she was STILL sending. And he wonders why I don't like her. Ever since then, I haven't!

netsirk10 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 04:35 PM

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Posted by Lsorrent

Not particularly spy....like I don't follow him when he goes out with his friends or anything, lol. But I haved checked his phone, texts and emails on random occasions.

same!

FutureMrsLMS Posted: Oct 16, 2009 04:35 PM

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I used to spy on one of my ex boyfriends and one day he caught me looking at his cell phone contact list. He got angry and blew up at me..and I think it was one of the reasons we broke up a few weeks later.

Theres a difference between being aware of what FH does in his spare time (and time away from you) and what FH does in the privacy of his home. Looking at his email inbox and cell phone = spying and not just an invasion of privacy but a sign of lack of trust and dis-respect.
Seeing old pictures, looking inside bedroom/;bathroom closets or drawers,looking at the history page of internet web sites = just being nosy.

I trust FH so have no reason to spy on him..and even less so since we live together and know each other's business every minute..lol

Hoda2010 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 05:21 PM

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When we first started going out I def went through his phone without him knowing. Now I don't at all!!!

iHeartMoogle Posted: Oct 16, 2009 06:04 PM

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I was totally going to call in this morning and say that I snoop all the time, but it's because I hate surprises and I'm very nosy. I went through FH's luggage the night before he proposed to try to find the ring because I had asked so many questions that I pretty much narrowed the day he was going to ask me down. I thought I had it right so I was just confirming my suspicions by looking for the ring. Luckily for him, FH knows I'm a big snoop and hid the ring in a pillbox inside of his guitar............I didn't find it and I was genuinely surprised the next day when he proposed...

I think it's good that I snooped, otherwise I would've been expecting it. Not finding it threw me off completely!

Diana508 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 06:12 PM

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He gives me absolutely nothing to be worried about! I can't say the same about the past. I didn't spy, but was always wondering. FH is such a breath of fresh air.

scatteredx12 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 06:28 PM

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I checked his myspace a few times when we first began dating because my ex who I was with for over 2 years made me totally not trust him but myspacing girls while I was laying down in his bedroom watching tv... so when I was first dating FH, I was so cautious and after reading his myspace messages a few times and seeing that he was writing to friends that were girls saying that I was it for him and I was so great.. I realized that I couldn't do this and I needed to trust him, and we've never had a trust issue EVER in the almost 6 years I've known him. I hated checking in on him because i DO trust him.

Clover23 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 08:30 PM

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Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by kris_gets_hitched

I never have. I don't have any reason to look through his stuff.

Once though, I accidentally clicked on his google search history (the drag-down menu) and he had been looking at porn. So I opened the site and called him into his room all like 'LOOK WHAT I FOUND ONLINE!!!' I know he looks at it, he knows I do too. It was just for laughs.

I would rather him watch the dvd's he has or magazines then online... viruses kid... no bueno...

I tell FH that ALL the time - I'm like dude, why do you have so many DVD's and STILL browse online... and he wonders why his desktop computer is shot. I told him it was the porn sites and he's like 'oh you just don't want me looking at it'

regy_k Posted: Oct 16, 2009 08:51 PM

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I admit it, I am a huge snoop. He gave me reason not to trust him once (he didn't do anything, was just keeping bad company) and ever since I randomly check his emails and phone. I told him that he has no right of privacy, he's cool w/it.

funny that this question popped up. My friend just broke up w/her bf 2 days ago after finding all these IMs btwn her bf and girls talking about sex and planning on meeting up to hook up with them. He saw that she looked thru his IMs and attacked her instead of apologizing. As I see it she was right to look and seeing what he really is up to.
As I said to FH 'if you act shady, u dont deserve privacy'

FallBride2010 Posted: Oct 16, 2009 10:34 PM

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I check his phone all the time...only b/c I am bored...and it gives me something to talk about..'like, what did so and so have to say?' I also go on his facebook...because I get bored on my own and look at his friends' pages!