so i used to be on here all the time, had everything booked for the wedding, and then things just went very wrong. Fiance and i had a ton of problems, parents, religion etc. Alot of stuff from our past and it all got really bad this past year. I ended up calling it quits and moving out. We canceled our hall and evrything. That was a little over a month ago and now we have calmed down and talked alot and i am so confused!! i think i do want to be with him but i just dont know. What if we get back together and it doesnt work? then i am doing this all over again. Or what if we stay apart and then i regret it later. Im so lost!!! its all on me, he wants to be with me and i just dont know what to do! any advise please!! is anyone in this boat????
wendyz06
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I believe in fate. Go with what your heart tell you and not what others think is right.
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I believer in fate. Go with what your heart tell you and not what others think is right.
I agree, thing happen for a reason and if it's meant to be you will work it out...
Good luck, we are all here for you
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Maybe you two should just live together without the phoeba of marriage. Take it slower. Wait a while. Let things go back to normal. It might also help if you try for a smaller wedding, and don't let religion and family cause you trouble. This is your lives! You have to go by what really works for you, not what others think is better!
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Maybe you two should just live together without the phoeba of marriage. Take it slower. Wait a while. Let things go back to normal. It might also help if you try for a smaller wedding, and don't let religion and family cause you trouble. This is your lives! You have to go by what really works for you, not what others think is better!
That is exactly what I would do.
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Maybe you two should just live together without the phoeba of marriage. Take it slower. Wait a while. Let things go back to normal. It might also help if you try for a smaller wedding, and don't let religion and family cause you trouble. This is your lives! You have to go by what really works for you, not what others think is better!
That is exactly what I would do.
I dont know about doing that.. if you live together without the 'phobia' of marriage, then you might become 'roomates' and never get married. Is marriage what you want? If it is, I would think long and hard about moving back in together without this committment. Maybe you should try living seperately and just be dating for awhile and see how you feel after a few months. This is JMHO...
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i really dont want to move in and not have marriage set b/c i dont think that will work. I guess i will just stay at my moms and like you said date and see what will become of that. I just dont wantto make the wrong choice!
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I agree, don't live together yet. Try dating, and maybe try having a smaller less to-do wedding.
nenna023
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thanks everyone, the size of the wedding wasnt the issue, it was just everything else!
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it is tuff. i was once engaged and called it off. i just didnt feel right. this was in 2001 and in 2002 i found my fh. things will work out and like a lot of other people said if it was meant to be it will be. dont push it. i believe in fate. Chin up.
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I can totally relate....
FH & I went out for a year & a half & we were on the verge of getting engaged, however, we started arguing all the time & were living together & just were not happy. Although it was hard, we broke up. We saw other people for about 7-8 months & along the way spoke here/there & then met for lunch one day & that spark was still there.
After the other relationships fizzled, we started dating again. We now have been together for another year & got engaged 8 months into it.
Looking back if we would have gotten engaged back then it would have been a huge mistake. We started taking e/o for granted & he told me now he really wasn't ready to get married at that point. We talked so many things out & although when we got back we both wanted things to go for the long run, we didn't pressure e/o into the engagement thing. Things have been really great since.
I wish you luck. FM me if you need to talk.
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similar situation here too..... just take it slow, date, don't move in together again. Let yourselves woo each other again. Your gut will let you know what is right.
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I was under the impression you two were living together already. I would never even considering marrying someone until I lived with them first. If living appart and dating works out better than go for it! take some away from tradition and just be yourselves!
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I believe in fate. Go with what your heart tell you and not what others think is right.
agreed!!!!
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thanks ladies. We moved were living together and i moved out a month ago. We fought really bad at first now we are just friends and we are doing really well. I am going to take it slow and just see where it goes. thanks for the replies, at least im not the only one going through it!
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Take it slow and see what happens. Sometimes you just need some space and time away from one another to realize. If it's meant to be you'll get back together. Stay strong
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I would take things very slowly. But most importantly follow your heart. Aslong as you and your partner are happy that is all that matters.
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I am so sorry to hear that you are so upset. I would just take it slow. Dont rush into marriage if you are not 300% sure. Just wait it out and live with him and when the time is right you will know.
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i totally remember you. you have a bulldog, right?
i think you need to take things slow... so i disagree with moving in together again...to me that's the opposite of taking it slow.
have you dated, or opened your eyes? have to evaluated what you want out of life.
maybe you can go into some sort of counseling with him to see if you can make the changes you need.
i've waiting a long time for my FH (well, not that long) and he is my first true 'boyfriend' - tho things haven't been always easy, we've never gotten into a huge blow out that almost ended the relationship.
i m sending u
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Maybe you two should just live together without the phoeba of marriage. Take it slower. Wait a while. Let things go back to normal. It might also help if you try for a smaller wedding, and don't let religion and family cause you trouble. This is your lives! You have to go by what really works for you, not what others think is better!
