Having a big Problem..... Sorry its lil long

CL122705 Posted: Sep 14, 2006 02:12 PM

Having a big Problem..... Sorry its lil long

with my invitations.

I am not talking to my stepfather and my mother wants me to put his name on invitation which I don't want to. She said I am going to make people talk I don't care about the people. He never respect me as a daughter. My father pass away when I was 8 Years old. So I want to put his name on invitation.

FH and I are paying for the wedding but my FI parents want there names on the invitation. So my FI wants there name on it (for respect).

This is the way I want to do it. Please be honest I want your opinion.

Mrs. Rosa XXXXXX
&
Mr. & Mrs. Antonio XXXXXX
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Laura M. XXXXX
&
Calogero A. XXXXXX

Heavenly Blessing From

MysteryGroom Posted: Sep 14, 2006 02:21 PM

Re: Having a big Problem..... Sorry its lil long

Do it the way you want, you'll only be upset with yourself if you give in.

LorinElizabeth Posted: Sep 14, 2006 02:27 PM

Re: Having a big Problem..... Sorry its lil long

If you and your FH are paying for it then your names should go first.
Ms. Jane Doe
and
Mr. John Smith
together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
and
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

request the honour of your presence...

Weddingchannel and theknot have good articles on the sticky-wording situations with invites.

Here's one link:
http://www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticle.action?assetPath=/templates/Invitations/iv3invitations.vm

Hope this helps!

TnOiOnL Posted: Sep 14, 2006 02:30 PM

Re: Having a big Problem..... Sorry its lil long

I have a similar problem with my FH's family except his mother never married this man, so hes technically not his step-father, but this guy's been dating his mom for like 20 years pretty much.... FH does NOT want this guys name or this GUY to be involved with ANYTHING>..

I think the way you have yours worded is FINE. hes not your real dad and hes technically not 'giving you away' along with ur mom...

i say stick with ur gut feeling... good luck!

dante31300 Posted: Sep 14, 2006 02:56 PM

Re: Having a big Problem..... Sorry its lil long

I think that if you and FH are paying for the event a good way not to offend anyone is to just use wording that says you and FH would like to invite everyone to share in your day and this way no one can ask questions or get offended everyone will just assume that you guys paid for everything and so there was no need to add anyone else to the invite. I would definitely go on the knot or the wedding channel for wording. Do what makes you and FH feel most comfortable with.