HEEELLLLPP!! I can't take it anymore!! UPDATE AT BOTTOM!!

Ok so I'll try to make a long story short! My FH lives 1.5 hours upstate from me (LI) and we have had our relationship like this for it's whole length. Now my FH works in Danbury, CT and I work here in Plainview/Garden City...Now the issue is where we are living after we are married. My Mother is being the biggest B$&*ch about it b/c she can't understand why he won't leave his job and find something else b/c he is an accountant and can find a job anywhere. Well my issue is that he is totally happy where he is and I'm not happy where i am all in all. I can find a job as well after I get experience here so we were thinking of moving to CT. Now my mother is throwing a freakin fit that it is too far and this and that and she is just pi$$ing me off royaly b/c she won't be happy unless I'm like 20 min away. I said the farthest I would be away is like 1.5 hours if we moved to Danbury and she freaked and said I would never see her if that is what it is going to be!! Well the funny thing is I went that far away for school, in CT, and then it was 'such a nice drive and can be done in a day if you wanted!!' Now it's a far drive!! I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! Why do people feel that their thoughts are the correct ones for everyone? Why can't I make my own decisions and not get penalized for it?! I'm so freaking miserable and have just lost any happiness for my wedding b/c it means i have to face the issue of moving and dealing with this cr*p!!

I just don't know what to do girls...HELP?!