I have a problem...my BM dress have to be ordered before the end of the month. We have 5 groomesmen and so far 4 BM. The problem is that I want my brothers girlfriend to be one of the BM, but my FI hates her, and she isn;t to fond of him either. What should I do??? Should I ask her to be my BM or find someone else?? What would you do???
Blu-ize
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You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
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You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
I agree. If you REALLY want her (not just to make an even bridal party, but because you want her to be a part of your special day), I would say sit down with your FH and explain to him how important it is to you. Perhaps you can talk through it and come up with a solution that you are both happy with
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Posted by Blu-ize
You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
Ditto.
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You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
I agree, what if you hated one of FH's friend, would you want him in you BP??
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You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
i agree too!
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Posted by Blu-ize
You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
Ditto.
Ditto also
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Posted by nicpizzo
Posted by Blu-ize
You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
Ditto.
Ditto also
Doubly-ditto...Also, currently girlfriends/boyfriends are always a 'rough patch'...you just never know if they're going to break up or not...
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Honestly...I think that if you want her, you should have her in the BP. Its not like they have to bother with eachother throughout the day. It is one of the things that he should be able to deal with for a day. Talk to him and let him know that it would mean a lot to you to have her as a BM if you feel that strongly about it
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Doubly-ditto...Also, currently girlfriends/boyfriends are always a 'rough patch'...you just never know if they're going to break up or not...
I was just thinking the same thing, if they breakup do you want her in your pics?
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I would sit down and talk to your FI about it. If he really is opposed so strongly to having her, then maybe you shouldn't.
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I wouldn't ask her, remember it is his day as well. Marriage is all about compromises.
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Posted by ChristineAEV
Posted by hsacks23r
Posted by nicpizzo
Posted by Blu-ize
You don't have to make it even. If he hates her I wouldn't ask her.
Ditto.
Ditto also
Doubly-ditto...Also, currently girlfriends/boyfriends are always a 'rough patch'...you just never know if they're going to break up or not...
Exactly- this is why I did not ask my brothers girlfriend. You BP does not have to be even!
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You don't have to make it even, I agree. If you want her in the Bp b/c you like her then that's another story. You should consider your FH input and feelings but they are your BM...
I agree that if they broke up would you hate to see her in pics? If you think you'd still be friends with her then it's something worth talking about to your FH.
FH wasn't fond of one of my MOH for a while! He felt that my BM were my choice, the same went for his GM- it wasn't at the 'hate' level tho...
