Help!!

MikesBride2B Posted: Dec 14, 2009 05:54 PM

Help!!

Sooo....two of my friends are going through a really messy break up. They were on and off for a long time and now it is over for good...but the are totally at war with each other, hurling insults over twitter and stuff. Its getting to be ridiculous. They are both really stubborn and I don't know what to do, because I love them both but I do NOT want this drama stirring up at my wedding...and I really don't think it'll be resolved by then (they both tend to hold grudges).

What do I do?? I obviously can't have them both there...but I can't choose between them...do I just not invite either of them? Flip a coin? Why can't people just act like adults

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Dec 14, 2009 05:56 PM

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Tell them if they act a fool at your wedding someone will be ESCORTING THEM OUT. Then delegate someone to be on 'idiot watch'

It's your wedding... I am sure they'll act grown. If not, tell them they BOTH CAN'T COME unless they act like adults.

Breakups shouldn't give people the excuse to act like a$$holes.

jesca Posted: Dec 14, 2009 05:57 PM

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who were you friends with first? you could go that way, or you could go with the one you're closer to. crappy situation, sorry

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Dec 14, 2009 05:58 PM

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I think the most adult way to handle it is to speak to each of them individually and let them know that you love them and you want them to be at your wedding, but there CANNOT be this kind of drama. If they are true friends, they will leave it be on your day. If not, make them aware that you will not invite them if they don't act maturely.

AdriandSteve Posted: Dec 14, 2009 05:59 PM

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TheFutureMrsPM Posted: Dec 14, 2009 06:01 PM

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You still have time for them to cool off..

If it gets close to the wedding and they are still at war I would just say to them that they need to act like adults at the wedding or alone one of them should show up (make them pick)

little j Posted: Dec 14, 2009 06:03 PM

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i agree w the above posters...but i also think that you need to invite them WITHOUT a guest!

if they really do hold grudges, inspecting eachothers guests could create a WAR you werent expecting.

jme78 Posted: Dec 14, 2009 06:11 PM

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Don't stress about it now - your wedding is still quite a few months away, its best to see what's going on at the time.

JayBee216 Posted: Dec 14, 2009 06:34 PM

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I do think that you should not invite them w/ guests, and sit them apart from each other (separate sides of the room if possible) and hopefully they won't run into each other!

I'm sure they're adults and know how to handle themselves around other people, but I would take each aside and just be like 'i need you to chill at my wedding.'

SummerBride10 Posted: Dec 14, 2009 06:36 PM

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I wouldn't talk to them just yet. Right now they're probably FUMING at each other. But maybe around May have a little discussion and make sure they are ready to act like adults. And I agree with Joanne- if they act up they SHOULD be escorted.