So my engagement pics are scheduled for this Thursday (as long as the weather holds up ) and I have been sooo looking forward to them and we already had to reschedule twice and I'm dying to use an e-pic for our STDs which need to go out sooner than later.
I admit I haven't made a big effort to lose the weight that I wanted too by now since the engagement, but as long as I was maintaining I wasn't upset.
In the past month I've gained 7 lbs, which doesn't sound like a lot but it is really showing and it really makes me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. I feel like I'm going to look bad in my pics and I'm going to regret it.
I'm really bent out of shape over this right now (tears streaming for the past 1/r hour now sitting at my desk). I don't want to postpone the pics but I'm afraid I will regret it.
What would you do?
CaughtMyFish
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Honestly if you are going to be so upset that you dont want to be photographed with the few extra lbs, then cancel and send a regular STD.
Or you can try and take pics with angles that are more flattering, or make you feel more secure that you will look good. Maybe a head shot of you two could be the STD choice!
I have been overweight since childhood and this worries me too, but you cant cry over it. It just is not worthy of a cry fest!!
and for what it's worth, I think you are beautiful!! Obviously so does your FH
LyssaK
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im in thr exact same boat ... and i want my e-pics sooner than later to use for std's as well .. and im the week after you
i think i am getting through this by wearing comfy clothes (were hoping to wear a collared shirt and cargo-ish pants kinda match our wedding colors together LOL) nothing tight fitting but more complimentary to my (our) bodies and might throw on a spanx .. and just try not to be as miserable as i feel about it ..
Jill52787
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Remember that we are our own worst critic. Try a few different outfits on, and if you really can't stand the thought of taking your epics, postpone them.
But also, this week, avoid salt and processed food. Drink a lot of water (like a LOT) and try to eat as many veggies as you can. ANy water weight/bloatedness should be gone in a few days.
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I would definitely try your outfit on and ask your family how they look in certain views. Im sure you can find something that looks flattering. I am my own worst critic alll the timeeee. Whenever i have to go somewhere i always up my workouts the week of.. for example if i havent running i run everday for a min. of 20 mins. It suxs but i atleast FEEL better about how i look on the inside.
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Posted by Jill52787
Remember that we are our own worst critic.
THIS! Besides, if you were 7 pounds heavier than you wanted to be on your wedding day, you surely wouldn't postpone that, right?? :)
My FH's family always asks me if I've lost weight even though I gained about 8 pounds over the past year lol. I feel pretty gross, but I know that others see something different than what I see.
If I were you, over the next week I would eat lots of fresh fruits that are high in water content, veggies, drink tons of water, and avoid salty or processed food like Jill said. I would also stay away from the scale. I have found that even if the scale says a higher number than I want, it's more important to me HOW I FEEL rather than the scale number. You can feel great without starving yourself by flushing out some of the water weight.
Try to be happy and let everyone see how much you enjoy being engaged to FH. Let that happiness show and you will be gorgeous!
DonnaMarie7
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First off, you are beautiful and I know its easy for me to say that when you aren't 'feeling' it. But you are!! And second lots of hugs to you because I know how you feel. I wanted to have my STDs out in July but I havent even scheduled my epics because I don't want to look disguisting. I think the advice the girls gave is right on- maybe take an extra spin class or jog the next couple of days so you feel more confident.
wishingwell1230
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First of all, thank you thank you thank you to all you girls and all of your kind and supportive words.
I really needed that and am already feeling better/more calm.
I have been looking forward to this for too long I don't want this to get in the way. I think you girls are right if I am very strict and eat whole foods, no salt, drink lots of water and kick up the activity in the next few days, I will FEEL better and I think that's all that really matters right now. (this is all in my head)
That's my plan for the next few days. Thanks again ladies. I can do this.
mara1017
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I agree with all the other girls.... I also have wanted to loose weight but I didn't. I usually hate how I look in pictures but my photographer did an amazing job about taking pictures in the right angles. They are professional and know how to make you look thinner!
I would take the pictures and if you really hate them you can always go with a save the date that does not have pictures in it! But I am sure you will look beautiful and you will find at least a few you like (and maybe even love)
chliekm
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I'm def in the same boat and haven't been really good about losing weight at all, however I know that if I had made the appointment for now then I would take them. Try on your outfit and take some pics with your camera and see how they look -- if you don't like them then I'd say go get another outfit. Don't get yourself down about it!! I'm sure your FH loves the way you look and doesn't see what you see.
I know its frusturating, but if you def want to use them for the STD then is there a certain date you need to take them by? And if you reschedule, as yourself if you are you 100% sure that you can lose these extra pounds by the next date? I'm not sure its worth delaying. Remember that these are professional pics and will come out beautiful.
I say do it!!
wishingwell1230
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you guys are right, the photographers are professionals and will know how to make us look good. And I'm sure I will like the photos but worst case scenario I don't use a picture for the STD.
I just need to go to sleep and wake up in a new day and I'll feel better. I think I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.
I need to remember to have fun, I've been looking forward to this for months now!
nilla24
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I need to remember to have fun, I've been looking forward to this for months now!
Exactly!!! You will look beautiful, don't stress it!
pixietina
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I felt the same way and still do. What I did was take a pic of us after I had my makeup trial and just did a pic of our faces. Now I am trying to lose weight for the real e-pics.
