Help!! Bridal Party Problem!!

Hi all- so we have kind of decided not to have a bridal party for numerous reasons- but decided that we do want to do MOH and BM... FI says that he may ask his 'best friend' (who treats him terribly and uses him, as well as having had a MAJOR fight with me last year) to be his BM- instead of his brother!!! I told him that I am so not okay with this person who is not 100% supportive, reliable, etc. to be a part of our wedding in such an involved way...

Then I realized that I should just let it go, but what do I do? I think that for this guy to be BM would make me really unhappy- he is really a jerk!!

And also- how do I pick my MOH???

Sorry to ramble- just overwhelmed!!
TIA

While I understand that you dislike your fiance's best friend, you do need to step back and allow him to choose the person he wants to. Think of this in the same way as you would if your FMIL were to dictate some aspect of your wedding; It's your fiance's best man and the person who will fill those shoes should be his decision. You might even suggest that he have two best men so that his brother may be included. Aside from kaing that suggestion, step away and let this be his decision.

As far as choosing your MOH, select the person you feel closest to. I chose my friend of 24 years. I have friends with whom I am closer, but she's always been in my life and I know she always will.

Best of luck to you.

I don't think it's the same as a FMIL interfering. I really feel like the BP is for both people. I would really feel uncomfortable. I know FH has friend he wants in the BP that I really don't approve of. He asked him when we were still in an engagement whirlwind and I didn't have time to voice my opinion, but this guy said he'll probably be out of the country, so i just breathed a sigh of relief and we didn't pursue it further.

I think the BM is a really big deal and you want it to be someone you can BOTH rely on. For us, it was between FH's best friend from childhood and my brother. The thing with FH's bst friend is that they hardly ever talk...but I do trust him and think he'd be a good BM. If he wanted the other guy I mentioned before to be the BM I would have said 'hell no'