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Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

jessnyc711 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:04 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:04 AM

Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Okay, just wanted to get some feedback. Going to a Casual (not longtime) friends wedding, who came to our August wedding....they gave us a check...should we give them the same amount back....

We're also giving them a framed 4x6 picture that our photographer took of them.

suven Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:08 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:08 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Well, I would give the same back, minus the cost of the framed gift...

RVCBride Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:09 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:09 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I'd give them the same amount in addition to the frame.

jessnyc711 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:14 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:14 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I'm debating if i should give them the same amount w/the frame or minus the frame cost from the $$$ gift....anyone else??

May152005 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:16 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 10:16 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Posted by RVCBride

I'd give them the same amount in addition to the frame.

I agree.

jfabbride Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:01 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:01 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I agree...I would give the frame and the same amount they gave you.

leighdvm Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:03 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:03 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Posted by jfabbride

I agree...I would give the frame and the same amount they gave you.

Ditto

suven Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:04 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:04 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

If it were a close friend, I would give the same amount in addition to the framed gift.

But, since it's not a close friend, I wouldn't...

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:06 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:06 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I'd give same amount plus frame.

stacie0877 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:10 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:10 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

me too.. was it a super pricey frame?

Robinella Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:40 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:40 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I would say give the same amount

jessnyc711 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:54 AM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 11:54 AM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

okay, I guess giving the same amount plus the frame is the majority...does the fact that the reception site they are having it at is less costly than our wedding reception have an influence on our gift amount? just wondering.

SANDNOV12 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 12:19 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 12:19 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I don't think the cost amount of the plate should have any bearing on how much you should give. That I think is tacky.

suven Posted: Nov 04, 2004 12:19 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 12:19 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Posted by jessnyc711

okay, I guess giving the same amount plus the frame is the majority...does the fact that the reception site they are having it at is less costly than our wedding reception have an influence on our gift amount? just wondering.

Well, that's often a topic of great debate over here.

In my opinion, it does and this is why I feel that way:

My cousin eloped. When he came back, his parents had a party for him at their house.

I felt that the gift giving for his wedding would be a bit less because we never really were guests at a wedding- we ate dinner at my aunt's house. Versus, a sit down dinner at a hall where great expenses were paid for food, drink, entertainment, etc.

*This is only my opinion. I do not profess it to be gospel nor do I take any issue with anyone who disagrees with me...*

eogara Posted: Nov 04, 2004 12:27 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 12:27 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Posted by jessnyc711

okay, I guess giving the same amount plus the frame is the majority...does the fact that the reception site they are having it at is less costly than our wedding reception have an influence on our gift amount? just wondering.

Absolutely not! If anything, it means they probably need the money more!

I'd give the same amount plus the frame.

jessnyc711 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:01 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:01 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Okay, just wondering if thats something to consider or should have no bearing on the gift amount. I of course want to make sure both our plates are covered....I most likely feel the most comfortable giving them the same amount plus the frame.

David'sbride Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:05 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:05 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I would give them same amount. If I looked at it as covering the cost of my plate then I must have jipped my friend who got married at the Four Seasons... I'm not sure if my yearly salary covered the cost of my plate at that wedding... it was unbelievably beautiful but they went way overboard.

Janine24 Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:21 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:21 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

Posted by Robinella

I would say give the same amount

same here...

FriendoftheBride Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:47 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:47 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

It really shouldn't make a difference how much you give. You give what you can afford to give even if it is more or less than what was given to you.

2006bride Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:52 PM+

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Posted: Nov 04, 2004 01:52 PM

Re: Help! Going to a Wedding, $$ gift amount???

I always think that a good rule of thumb is to give $100 if you are going alone and give $200 if you are taking a date.

If the couple is more important to you than that (like a best friend or close relative then give a little bit more).

What do you guys think?