help.. how do you get a 'number' from your parents? Long...
Hi everyone, I hope you all had a great weekend.
So in the midst of beginning wedding planning, I have been having a hard time with numbers... I sat down with my parents to talk to them about contributing to our wedding. My parents are more than willing to help us, although they aren't going to pay for the whole thing. The thing is, I asked them how much they thought they would be willing to help out with, and they keep telling me that they can't come up with a specific number. I find this hard because without knowing how much they can help, it's hard for us to create a budget and shop around.
Another issue is that my parents keep comparing me to my sister, who just got married last May. The thing is that she lives upstate where everything is A LOT cheaper, and she was engaged for 5 years, 3 of which she lived with her husband's mom so they could save money for a house. Also, her mother in law paid for a large share of the wedding. I keep telling my parents that our situations aren't the same, that we have been on our own for 5 years without the financial support from anyone, we are getting married on LI and his parents aren't helping us.
My dad also loves to lecture me on money. He is retired and him and my mom are very comfortable, but not without a rough past.. they have had their share of money issues and he lectures me every chance he gets. I mean we are not very stable financially either, which doesn't make it any easier. Every time I talk to him I hang up the phone feeling like I am never going to get married because we 'can't afford it'.
Maybe I am just venting, but I don't really know what to do. We are going to see the North Ritz (if my FH ever gets home from work). I guess I will just call them and tell them what they have quoted us, and see if they can put down a deposit where ever we decide to book.
Thanks for letting me vent!
So in the midst of beginning wedding planning, I have been having a hard time with numbers... I sat down with my parents to talk to them about contributing to our wedding. My parents are more than willing to help us, although they aren't going to pay for the whole thing. The thing is, I asked them how much they thought they would be willing to help out with, and they keep telling me that they can't come up with a specific number. I find this hard because without knowing how much they can help, it's hard for us to create a budget and shop around.
Another issue is that my parents keep comparing me to my sister, who just got married last May. The thing is that she lives upstate where everything is A LOT cheaper, and she was engaged for 5 years, 3 of which she lived with her husband's mom so they could save money for a house. Also, her mother in law paid for a large share of the wedding. I keep telling my parents that our situations aren't the same, that we have been on our own for 5 years without the financial support from anyone, we are getting married on LI and his parents aren't helping us.
My dad also loves to lecture me on money. He is retired and him and my mom are very comfortable, but not without a rough past.. they have had their share of money issues and he lectures me every chance he gets. I mean we are not very stable financially either, which doesn't make it any easier. Every time I talk to him I hang up the phone feeling like I am never going to get married because we 'can't afford it'.
Maybe I am just venting, but I don't really know what to do. We are going to see the North Ritz (if my FH ever gets home from work). I guess I will just call them and tell them what they have quoted us, and see if they can put down a deposit where ever we decide to book.
Thanks for letting me vent!
