She is sweet, but she is nosey and bored. Earlier in the week she had asked me about my mom's dress. I stupidly told her the maker and where she was getting it.
Turns out - my psycho FMIL WENT to the shop where my mom is getting her dress, and asked to see my mom's dress - and the morons in the shop showed it to her.....even though my mom didn't even order it yet. AFTER she did all this she goes ' is it ok that I saw your moms dress?' My mom was so excited about keeping her dress a secret (I dont know why - its her thing), but my FMIL ruined it because she is bored and loves to be in other peoples business, then tell everyone on her block, literally. If my mom finds out she saw it, she is going to go nuts.
Then she told me that my FSIL feels better about the BM dress because she had the girl in the BM store tell her the sizes of all my BM's - and since the FSIL isn't the biggest, she felt better.
june262004
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I think you are blowing it a little out of the water. Your FMIL could be like my MIL Trust me thats not good. If this is the worst thing she does/did be happy!
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I think you are blowing it a little out of the water. Your FMIL could be like my MIL Trust me thats not good. If this is the worst thing she does/did be happy!
good point
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Asking for the other bridesmaids' sizes is a little odd, but I don't think its unreasonable for your FMIL to want to see your mom's dress. She might have been getting an idea of how dressy hers should be , and also what the color was so that they didn't clash or look too matchy. Of course, she could have asked first if she could go see it, to be polite.
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Well, my FMIL threatned us with not going to the wedding. (I dont want her to go anyway! ) But heck, ignore the lady... that just goes to prove she has nothing better to go with her life. I just think anything our FMIL's do gets our nerves going. Argh. Good luck with her! (you'll need it)
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Sorry- I guess I am in the minority here, but they both sound a little psycho to me.
And I can see asking the sizes of the other bm's, but she certainly shouldn't have told you she did! That is like insulting the rest of your bridal party by saying 'I am glad I am not the biggest'.
Good luck to you!
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I think its sneaky. I hope it isnt indicative of how she will behave in the future. It would hav pis*ed me off to know end if my FMIL did what yours did. JMO
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Sorry- I guess I am in the minority here, but they both sound a little psycho to me.
And I can see asking the sizes of the other bm's, but she certainly shouldn't have told you she did! That is like insulting the rest of your bridal party by saying 'I am glad I am not the biggest'.
Good luck to you!
I agree... u got 2 psychos on your hands
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I think your FSIL is even more of a psycho than your FMIL
edited to add: Oh, was it your FMIL who asked the sizes? If so, then she is a psycho.
And, tell the store to keep your business confidential!
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bottle a little nutty if you ask me. the mil dress isnt THAT bad b/c she probably doesnt want to clash, however the real NUT is the one that felt 'fat' and saw all the sizes! thats ridiculous!!!!!
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Posted by Sunny
Sorry- I guess I am in the minority here, but they both sound a little psycho to me.
And I can see asking the sizes of the other bm's, but she certainly shouldn't have told you she did! That is like insulting the rest of your bridal party by saying 'I am glad I am not the biggest'.
Good luck to you!
I agree... u got 2 psychos on your hands
I don't think totally psycho. But definitely some loose wires upstairs! What they did is very bizarre behavior! Sounds like my FILs. They're not completely psycho but they have issues and tend to do things that are 'off'!
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I think your FSIL is a little odd! Why does she want to know the BM sizes? Kind of rude, dont you think? Your FMIL is wrong too, but I think FSIL stepped over the line a little too much!
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she should have not done that at all. That is your mother privacy. I'm sorry that happened to you.
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OMG!!!!!!!! that is so wrong!!!!!! it's definitely NOT you!
How could she do that?? that is beyond nosy! wasn't knowing the color of your mom's dress enough? jeeeeeeeeez
she sounds as nosy as my FMIL! she's a sweet lady, don't get me wrong. but she doesn't work and she's a widow, so she has a lot of free time. if you know what I mean. it is so frustrating!! she was visiting us last weekend from out of town and asked me 10,000 times what my dress looks like... even though I made it perfectly clear that I want to keep it a surprise. UGH!
ETA: your FSIL sounds very insecure!
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Maybe she wanted to see what your mom was wearing so she didnt get a dress too similar or too different. Maybe she didnt know exactly what to wear. It always helps me to see what others are wearing.
Also with the size of the BMs, If shes a little bigger maybe she was self concious. I had a bridesmaid drop out and I do think that was the reason
Either way, it does seem a little strange, but I wouldnt be too upset.
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I don't think she is psycho -- nutty seems like a good word for her though.
I wish I had as much free time as she appears to have.
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Posted by glinda_goodwitch
Asking for the other bridesmaids' sizes is a little odd, but I don't think its unreasonable for your FMIL to want to see your mom's dress. She might have been getting an idea of how dressy hers should be , and also what the color was so that they didn't clash or look too matchy. Of course, she could have asked first if she could go see it, to be polite.
I agree 100%
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Definately not normal! lol
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PSYCHO! That is so freaking rude and uncalled for. She went and asked to see your moms dress? Talk about weird. I don't think you are wrong to feel icky about it.
If you ask me, they both sound insecure and you should just let it roll off and feel sorry for them. I would be steamed though...
